Learning From My Mum’s Expressions And Example

Back in June, Suze, the creator of suziland too or obsolete childhood, tagged me for a “3.2.1 Quote Me!” Challenge!!!

https://suziland.site/2019/05/22/notices-and-challenges/

The “3.2.1 Quote Me!” Challenges originate with Rory, the creator of A Guy Called Bloke, and this was his original post for this topic:

321 Quote Me – Expression

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Rules

Thank the Selector  – THANK YOU SUZE!

Post 2 quotes for the dedicated Topic of the Day.  

Select 3 bloggers to take part in ‘3.2.1 Quote Me!’ 

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Topic: EXPRESSION

I just did not know which direction to go in with this topic. In itself, the word “expression” has several different definitions, it can be a phrase, a facial mannerism that conveys emotions, or it can be an act of communicating one’s thoughts or feelings. In the end I chose two quotes that are slightly different interpretations of the word “expression”.

This is something my mum taught me.  She is such a beautiful person – inside and out. I never heard her say unkind things about others, even those who she had a right to complain about. She is mild and delightful.

When somebody provokes me, I try to think of my lovely mum – the personification of grace and tact and diplomacy. I am so grateful to have a wonderful mum who has set such a good example for us. Unless there is a complete eeeey-yat in front of you who clearly seeks to harm you, always choose to be lovely and kind – like my mum!

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Here is another quote that struck a chord with me. I think that my mum and my dad set a wonderful example in being the best kind of humans. From the youngest age I saw them, not only caring for the seven of us children, but caring for others too.

They have always been kind and helpful. People in our home town loved my parents. They nurtured in us the quality of thinking about other people and showing that we care.

Probably the role where my ability to care for others was most tapped into was working in health care – specifically with patients with terminal illnesses. Aaaaah sigh! Perhaps the most demanding, but definitely the most rewarding and meaningful time of my life.

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My Three Nominees

 

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Because I’m Happy!

It is winter in Australia. Am I happy that I am spending my holidays in the Australian wintry season which is just as grey as bland as any winter without snow? You bet’ya I am happy!!! I have every reason to be happy! I am with Goldfinch 🙂

But even without Goldfinch, my happiness comes from a different source. It’s not a secret really, but to some who cannot comprehend how someone who does not own any property or vehicle, and has so few possessions, has serious health issues after being the victim of a serious crime, and has lost friends because of the slander she was victim of…why should I be so deeply happy?

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Kristian, creator of , has nominated me for a fantastic “3.2.1 Quote Me!” challenge with the lovely theme HAPPINESS, as you can see from his post below:

https://talesfromthemindofkristian.wordpress.com/2019/05/30/3-2-1-quote-me-topic-happiness/

….and I have also been nominated for the same challenge on the same topic by Cyranny

3, 2, 1 Quote me! – Happiness

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The “3.2.1 Quote Me!” challenges originate with Rory, the creator of A Guy Called bloke, and this is his original post:

321 Quote Me – Happiness

Well…I remember a lot being said to me about happiness as I was growing up, especially on the topic of what would bring real happiness. I remember many conversations we had within my family or close friends. The main thrust was being happy within your current circumstances rather than thinking that you need a change in situation to be happy. For example, if I hoped to be happily married one day, the best chance I had was to be happy as a single person. I was taught happiness is not just about transitory pleasures, or things, or even people. So when I saw this quote I was in agreement with it. I think it might be hard to read in this picture but it says: DON’T LET YOUR HAPPINESS DEPEND ON SOMETHING YOU MAY LOSE – C.S Lewis

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My second choice of quote is one that reflects much of how I feel about happiness. It mentions a good conscience. I am not sure that young ones are taught how essential a good conscience is to happiness. I hear of people doing the most abhorrent things, and they don’t seem to show any remorse. It is frightening in some respects. Except that I am not surprised. It was forecast that people would be this way.

A good conscience, good health, occupation and freedom in all just pursuits. I think Thomas Jefferson’s quote is a very wise one. Again he mentions that happiness ought not to depend on our current circumstances. I have known some special individuals who had very difficult circumstances – loss of homes and possessions, serious illness, incarceration for a matter of conscience, loss of jobs and friends – but you can see that the inner person, the happy heart, is intact. Because they know they have lived well, done what is good and right and they know that their Creator is smiling down with utter pride at the them. They possess an unshakeable happiness that does not depend on circumstances. They are confident that current suffering is temporary.

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Their secret to real happiness. It is only a secret because so many people mistakenly pursue possessions, money, fame, friends, status, hobbies, romance and a bunch of things that can bring a degree of happiness, pleasure and can keep you busy. But not the unshakeable happiness that lives on even if you were to lose all of the those things.

If you know the real secret of happiness, unshakeable happiness that does not depend on circumstances – then spread it!

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It is not possible really to finish this post without a nod to THE HAPPY SONG!!!

Hungry?

I have been tagged for a “3.2.1 Quote Me!” Challenge on the theme FOOD GLORIOUS FOOD, by Rory himself, aka Called Bloke and K9 Doodlepip!, the architect of these challenges, as you can see from his original post below:

321 Quote Me – Food Glorious Food

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Rules: 3.2.1 Quote Me!

Thank the Selector – THANKS RORY!

Post 2 quotes for the dedicated Topic of the Day.

Tag 3 bloggers to take part in ‘3.2.1 Quote Me!’

I don’t know why. but I always feel closer to those of my friends I have eaten with / dined with and especially those with whom I eat with / dine with regularly. It always makes me feel more comfortable, more informal, and just as if I have a closer bond with those friends. And I love it. Having dinner with a bunch of friends or family is probably my favourite way to spend and evening – especially when it’s home cooking we are devouring.

More important than the food itself, is the atmosphere. It is so wonderful to be with people who you cannot help but love. No tensions, no rivalries – just peace and harmony. It is so much better for the digestion. Even if you have the simplest of fare – where there is love, you will thrive.

Is the topic of food a good enough excuse to include a song which always makes me think of Jack? He always sang this at dinner!

The three bloggers I am tagging for the “3.2.1 Quote Me!” Challenge are:

Make Your Own Kind Of Music

violinist.jpgI have been falling way way behind in all aspects of blogging. Please feel free to give me a shout if I seem to be missing your posts. I am speed reading as much as I can of the many posts that appear in my Reader. I lost a couple of days completely when I just did not have time to open my lap-top at all. But I am trying to spend a little time each day.

Over an month ago I received a tag for the “3.2.1 Quote Me!” Challenge on the theme THE BEAUTY OF GREAT MUSIC from the lovely Sadje, creator of Keep it alive, as you can see from her post below:

321 Quote me

The “3.2.1 Quote Me!” Challenges originate of course with Rory, the creator of A Guy Called Bloke and K9 Doodlepip! This is Rory’s original post which explains exactly how these challenges work:

321 Quote Me – The Beauty of Great Music

pianistI will admit to you right now…this topic was not as easy as I thought it would be at first. I will explain why. I love music as much as the next person. As a teenager I worked for a record company and I was obsessed with music! I am very aware of the powerful effect it could have on my my mood, attitude and emotions. But because some of that effect was harmful to me…I started to limit the amount of music I listened to and I became much more selective about lyrics. When I was looking for quotes for the challenge, I thought some of them were a bit unbalanced. They reminded me of the obsessive view of music I used to have. So in the end I chose two quotes that are a bit more positive and healthy and balanced.

Rules

Thank the Selector – THANKS SADJE! 🙂

Post 2 quotes for the dedicated Topic of the Day.

Select 3 bloggers to take part in ‘3.2.1 Quote Me!’

 “The Beauty of Great Music”

 

LIFE! It makes me tingle to think of all that word means. When I think of all the verses and the main chorus of my life so far, a fraction of which I have been able to write about, it makes up quite an incredible symphony.

Think of your own life – the song or symphony of your life. The high and low notes. The crescendos, the beat to which you live, the rhythm which shapes your life.

I want to make my life a sweet song, one that delights me and that others would enjoy the melody of. May your life too be a beautiful harmony that enchants others 🙂

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I love singing! I love karaoke especially. music quote

I find singing helps me feel better when I am sad. In fact, do you remember I was having a mini-meltdown last week when I was overwhelmed by concerns? Well one day when I was sobbing like a baby and did not know why, I knew I needed a speedy strategy snap-out of it. So I started to sing! I had a good old croon! I was belting out some tunes from the sixties and it made me feel a lot better very quickly.

I don’t need a lot of encouragement to sing – it’s something I love to do. I have no idea what this quote is supposed to mean exactly…but it did strike a chord with me! I am surely one of those people who wish to sing and can always find a song.

My Nominees

The three bloggers I am nominating for the “3.2.1 Quote Me!” Challenge on the theme of THE BEAUTY OF GREAT MUSIC are:

 

 

An Array Of Potential In Just One Word

The beautiful Belle, creator of Wondering Belle’s Blog, has tagged me to take part in the “3.2.1 Quote Me!” Challenge on the topic of ATTITUDE, as you can see from her post below:

321 Quote Me – Attitude

Just in case you did not know the “3.2.1 Quote Me!” Challenges originate with Rory, the creator of A Guy Called Bloke and K9 Doodlepip!:

321 Quote Me – Attitude

Rules

Thank the Selector – THANK YOU BELLE!

Post 2 quotes for the dedicated Topic of the Day.

Select 3 bloggers to take part in ‘3.2.1 Quote Me!’

I must say that sometimes when I think of the word “attitude”, I think of it with a slightly negative connotation:

“Don’t take that attitude with me young lady!”

“He has a big attitude problem”

“The attitudes in society today are deeply unhealthy”

I hear a lot about negative, harmful attitudes. So I decided that to give my mind a blank canvas for this challenge, I should check the dictionary definition of the word “ATTITUDE”, and I am glad that I did:

“a settled way of thinking or feeling about someone or something,

which is often reflected in a person’s behaviour”

nervous.jpgAaaaaah! That clearly shows the potential for positive or negative is equal. Attitudes can be extreme, or in between. Our attitude is basically our habitual thoughts and feelings about things or people. Careless, indifferent, generous, arrogant, hopeful, rebellious, judgemental, kind, miserly, cheerful…there is a array of potential when it comes to that one word: ATTITUDE!

I know some people who seem to want a fight with everyone. Or seem to think that the whole world is against them. I saw it in a workmate once. Right from the start it was clear they were rather insecure. No matter what I said to reassure that colleague, they kept on declaring that the rest of the team disliked them and were discriminating against them. Of course the end result was that the rest of the team were so nervous of saying anything at all, they did start to avoid contact with that individual. It was all exhausting.

Of course, I understood that in the past that individual had been treated badly by some people. But it was now wreaking havoc on their ability to develop and maintain new relationships. And it was a battle to help overturn their entrenched thoughts, feelings and attitudes towards other people. I kept on hearing the same expression over an over “it’s just me, I cannot change”. Wrong – of course you can change. It might take effort, but of course you can change.

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My Two Quotes

Personally, I think that one of the best ways to combat negative thinking, feeling and attitudes is to cultivate healthier, happier, more positive ones. Amongst my favourite attitude quotes is this one:

You may have heard quotes along the lines of gratitude can make a poor man rich. I realize more and more that being rich is not really about how much you own, or how much money is in your bank account, it is very much to do with how you feel about life, people and creation.

Gratitude for a myriad of things is a powerful force in helping you endure trials and hardships. Hard times will come, no doubt about it, and no matter what anyone says, it is ok to be sad, and it is ok to cry. But do not let those bad things impact too much on all the wonderful things in life. Treasure up the wonderful.

Realize you are richer than many who have more material possession than you (those who might well be decrepit when it comes to ethics and integrity). Hold your head up high knowing that what really counts is not how other people treat you, but how you treat other people. Be a princess. It is the peace-makers that will inherit this earth.

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I have mentioned in a few posts that when I was a teenager, I went through a bit of a rebellious stage (which is not unusual). I started working for a record company. I was listening to songs with lyrics full of angst and anger and apathy and disdain for any authority. Not surprisingly those lyrics started to effect my attitude. I met a lot of musicians during that time. I mixed with filth, some who I came to regard as the dross of humankind. (Some of them, not all of them.) Now, as a 14/15 year old, I should not have been at some of those venues – stupid me!

But I woke up to the fact that I actually felt rather disgusted by what I was seeing. I saw more vomit in my brief time working for the record company than I saw in all my years working in medical care. I saw things that I have come to despise: drugs, excessive consumption of alcohol, yucky stinky men with mouths like refuse who tried to have their way with me, but did not realize they were dealing with someone who was still at school.

Admitting that I found that atmosphere foul and breaking free was liberating. I was still a bit lost, because as a teenager, I just did not know what I wanted in life and had no sense of direction. The first time I walked onto a construction site as a volunteer, I found the purpose I had been longing for. Clean, kind, friendly, good humoured, generous, patient, gorgeous, warm – I could go on and on. It was so refreshing to me.

Here were 300 men and women who either lived locally or who had travelled for up to four hours to get there. None of them were being paid a penny. All had volunteered to give their time and skills to the project. They were willing to train unskilled volunteers (like me) and were so encouraging and appreciative. I learnt what kind of person I wanted to be. No looking back ever since.

Habitual thoughts and feelings form attitudes. So if I sense my thinking or feelings are becoming unhealthy – I chase those thoughts and feelings away and expose myself to healthy ones. I stay in control. I choose my attitude. If I don’t like it, I change it.

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Three Bloggers I Am Tagging For The “3.2.1 Quote Me!” Challenge On The Topic Of ATTITUDE:

The Quest For Truth

I have been nominated for the “3.2.2 Quote Me!” on the topic of TRUTH by the wonderful Li the creator of Tao Talk, as you can see from Li’s post below:

321 Quote Me – Ain’t it the Truth?

This is a topic I love. I remembered that I made an attempt at this four months ago. Am I allowed to admit that I am slightly shattered after the BAKE-OFF, even though loved every moment? So I hoped it would be alright if I present the quotes I included when I published this in November. It might be familiar to some of you.

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https://sparksfromacombustiblemind.com/2018/11/16/3-2-1-quote-me-truth/

Just in case you are not familiar with the “3.2.1. Quote Me!” challenges, I have included some of the rules below, and please do look at the original post created by Rory, the creator of A Guy Called Bloke and K9 Doodlepip!

321 Quote Me – Truth

Rules:

Thank the Nominator.

Post 2 quotes for the dedicated Topic of the Day.

Select 3 bloggers to take part in ‘3.2.1 Quote Me!’

Right… well… where on earth to begin? Well, where do most people start their search for truth? Correct me if I am wrong, but I think many lean towards either science or religion in their quest for truth.

Now… who am I to be overly assertive on any of these subjects? Nothing qualifies me to be dogmatic. However, I have every right to be in search of truth. I am a human. I have questions. I want answers. And I do believe there are answers, and that there is truth. What I have no intention of doing is insulting anyone, so forgive my waffling. I just don’t want to be disrespectful to all of the genuine people who are honestly searching for truth, and trying to live their lives in a right way, to the best of their understanding.

I go to a lot of dinner parties, which tend to be with a lot of middle-aged people nowadays, and I have enjoyed hearing the beliefs and views of some very interesting people. I love someone who can reason, and is happy to consider and contemplate without ever resorting to insults. I have to say, the cleverest people seem to be those who are not close-minded, but preserve their reasoning ability and develop a discussion logically.

And so before I give you my two quotes…one in connection with science, one more on a religious note – I just want to say, I do understand why many feel cynical. Too many outright lies, half-truths, distortions of truth, twisting of truth by far.

We are like sponges when we are little ones, absorbing incredible amounts of information, and then there comes a point when we cotton to the fact that some of what we have been taught is not real, not true. We learn that people, especially the big-promise makers, don’t always keep their promises. We taste disillusionment and doubt. We wonder, is there anyone, anything I can really trust?

Many reach the conclusion that there is no truth, except hard truths that kind of extinguish hope and optimism. Now, I love humour…but I think many have given up their quest for truth, and just see an endless source of comedy in the hypocrisy of those who set themselves up as truth-sayers, gurus, experts.

I feel there are some who set out to deliberately deceive and profit, by extorting money from those who trust them. Some just seem rather mercenary in their zeal to promote their conclusions. There are others who seem to have a gigantic chip on their shoulder or their knickers in a twist, and just attack everyone else, but don’t have anything truly substantial to offer themselves. Or those come across as if they have been deeply let down and pained by those they trusted. There are others who genuinely believe they are correct and speak with passion, and yet their statements or teachings have holes in them. I don’t think they are deliberately trying to manipulate anyone, but perhaps they are being over-confidant and presumptuous in their claims.

Hmm – the question of what is truth? Who is sincerely telling the truth to the best of their understanding?

I honestly  feel more inclined to trust those who display humility and recognize that our view is limited. We may not have all the facts, so it is unwise to be dogmatic about conclusions and not allow for the possibility that we might be wrong, at least in some respects. We should always be prepared to learn more and correct our understanding. I am also inclined to prefer those who don’t try to over-complicate things with highfalutin explanations and technical terminology that Joe Bloggs, Jane Doe and I cannot understand. Even profound concepts can be presented in simple terms by an effective teacher.

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Right…I just wanted to get that out of the way! Let’s crack on with my two quotes:

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It was the first part of this quote I wanted to feature. Only I will say this: SCIENCE SHOULD BE THE SEARCH FOR TRUTH. But I do not believe that is always the case.

I love science. I am particularly drawn to physics. In essence, I have always felt that a true scientific approach involves the search for answers to questions and testing out the various theoretical possibilities to see how they work. I have a mathematical mind and I am always interested in the mathematical probability of a theory.

I appreciate the candour of renowned scientists, such as neuro-scientist David Eagleman, who wrote: “Good science is always open-minded, and the history of science is one of surprises.” Or physicist Paul Davies, who observed: “The search for a closed logical scheme that provides a complete and self-consistent explanation for everything is doomed to failure.” Both of these men seem honest.

Although I have a keen interest in physics and a passion for learning and understanding how things work. I am not sure that science alone can answer all of our questions as humans. Remarkable things have been discovered by scientists. I do believe there are some very genuine and open-minded scientists who will continue to learn and discover amazing things.

Yet in the vain search to use knowledge to make a profit, an enormous price seems to be hanging over mankind, due to the misuse of science. Some have used the discoveries of scientists to great detriment. Nuclear physics – is amazing…but it has been used to make nuclear weapons. The marvels of aviation, which can be used to unite the world, or used to drop bombs to destroy members of our human family. Plastic! – it’s hard to hear that word without feeling provoked at the moment.

 

Too many are using science to make a a profit at the expense of so much. Too many cases of false results, false evidence, in order to make money or win fame at the end of the day. Too many theories promoted as fact. Annoying! I feel rather angry when I read of the falsifying of evidence. It makes a mockery of a profession which should be a search for truth, not for profit.

Working in pharmacy…you can see how much money can be made from promoting a wonder-drug or treatment. One drugs company may promote their new product on the market by dissing the products that have been relied on previously. They can sound very convincing, very authoritative. Do they sincerely believe their product will make a huge improvement to people’s health…or is their marketing just very clever – all leading to a great big fat profit?

Well…you have to wait and see often. Although my appetite to read scientific books has never diminished, I do not at all feel that science has any kind of monopoly on truth. But it should be the search for truth. That all depends on the integrity and humility and honesty of individual scientists.

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So, now I turn to the second area where many turn to in their search for truth: religion.

I am going to apply the same approach to this quote, and say: RELIGIOUS TRUTH SHOULD SET YOU FREE. But I do not believe that all religious beliefs are true, neither do I believe that all lead to freedom.

I don’t want to be belligerent on this subject. I have no right to be. I feel that a person’s religious views are very close to their heart. I don’t want to go around bruising hearts. So I am going to tread carefully and I am not going to start throwing insults around at any religious groups.

Let me say first though that I do believe in a Creator. Someone that fashioned matter into remarkable creations. Not just a force of energy, but a person with a remarkable personality. I do believe that He possesses love, power, wisdom and that He wants us to know Him and that He wants us to find the answers to our questions – especially why there is so much going wrong with this world and is there any hope for things to get better? In saying this I am not inviting any bullish remarks from those who might have drawn a very different conclusion to me. I am just being up front about my own view because I truly am trying to write a post that is free from bias.

However, I certainly do not believe that religion as a whole is trustworthy. I refer to both the teachings or doctrines that exist and the behaviour and attitude of individuals, especially religious leaders. There are no doubt many who are sincere in themselves. But as with science, there are also those who have been motivated by wealth and prominence. I feel indignant by how many have used religion to beguile others and have extorted a massive profit.

In addition, surely nobody in their right mind would deny that there are too many pages of bloodshed in the history of religion by far. Lots of damage has been done by those who have claimed to represent the Almighty and yet have abused the positions of trust they have been placed in. I am not surprised that there are some who feel very angry with religion, and are now averse to anything associated with religion or a Creator. It is again something that makes me feel incensed that many religions have put people off believing in a Creator who cares.

Now, I really don’t want to single out any religious groups – I don’t feel I have any right to mock someone’s treasured beliefs. So I am going to steer clear of mentioning any specific doctrines and religious teachings that I feel are far from true. I have friends and workmates who have religious beliefs very different from my own. Some seem more devoted to their religious beliefs than others.

I have read a lot about the major religions of the world, but I feel I know more about Christianity and it’s history than other religions. I have read in various books that there are anywhere between 37,000 – 42,000 different Christian denominations. Some of those have very different understandings of the role of Christ, the route to forgiveness, which practices are acceptable or not, the perception of the soul, the hope for the future of mankind and for those who have died. Same leader, same scriptures – wildly different teachings.

I don’t wish to cause any offence to anyone or to sound critical. But I can sympathise with anyone who is put off from searching to answers to their questions at all when there is such an array of contradictory answers being offered by different groups.

Yet I will say this, I do believe that some religious groups are a lot closer to truth than others. I think that both their teachings and their conduct and attitude to others, manifest that they have a lot more truth in them. They make religion look good. I respect those that have a faith based on clear reason and who try to live by their faith in sincerity. Especially when they are able to engage in a reasonable discussion about their beliefs, answering questions, but remaining calm and respectful about and towards those who do not share their beliefs.

There is no perfect group of people. Every family, club, group, community, or organization will have to face that at times individuals will not represent them well. But for a group of imperfect people, there are some religious groups who definitely win my respect by their honesty and humility. I have all the time in the world for people like that. I would be happy to invite them into my little nest for a cup of tea on a rainy Saturday morning to hear more about their views, but they probably walk past my gate without every realizing it leads to an abode where they would find a warm welcome.

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Well… I am one of… is it seven or eight billion humans, who have the capacity to ponder “what is it all about?”. There are a lot of people who are convinced they are right, telling me what to believe. I am fascinated by science and religion. But as I have gained experience in life and have talked with people from all backgrounds, I am drawn to those that bear the stamp of truth.

I don’t tolerate those who cannot have a discussion with a respectful attitude. I am not interested in mental boxing matches. Then there are those I can see that may feel they are genuine and are full of conviction, but despite their sincerity, I discern big holes in their reasoning. On the other hand, I have started to probe more carefully those who speak with eloquence and profess to have all the answers. It’s up to me to test out what I read, see, hear and to decide whether I am reading truth, half-truths, a twisting of the truth, or outright lies. I have felt many of my questions have been answered satisfactorily. Especially why there is so much going wrong on a planet that has the potential to be a paradise? I have a lot of hope that the future will be better. But I do have more questions and I am eager to read, listen, learn more and more.

But that process should not be just about me picking my favourites, what tickles my ears…like running around a sweet shop and making up your own goodie bag. I try to be unbiased and careful in my approach to what I read. I do ask:

  • who is saying this?
  • is their reasoning sound?
  • what is their evidence?
  • what authority do they rely upon?
  • what are they trying to accomplish?
  • does their conduct match with their teachings?
  • do their ideas bring beneficial results?
  • are these ideas actually leading to anything worthwhile or is this person just attacking others?
  • are they after my money? (they will be disappointed if they are because I hardly have a bean!)

I feel as if I am getting close to exhausting this subject of truth…indeed I am feeling exhausted myself. I hope I have not left you feeling as exhausted as I am.

But that is partly because I am trying so hard to be unbiased and trying to be careful. I do not want to offend anyone! For kindness and truth should adorn any discussion about subjects that are so very close to people’s hearts.

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My nominees are three bloggers who I think are probably just as concerned with a kind and respectful approach to the subject of truth, or any other subject, as I am:

talesfromthemindofkristian Tales from the mind of Kristian

positivesideofcoin Positive Side Of The Coin

Only One You!

While I have worked for the NHS I have been very familiar with campaigns that were run in conjunction with the motto “There’s ONLY ONE YOU!” It is very true, each of us is unique. We don’t have to be a rebel or revolutionary to be unique. We just are unique. No two humans are completely identical – even identical twins can form very different opinions and views.

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Each step of our journey through life makes us unique. Billions of individual experiences shape who we are. It’s obvious when reading the work of other bloggers that each of us has a different story to tell. One blogger with a fascinating life-story, Rory (A Guy Called Bloke) has created the “3.2.1.Quote Me!” Challenges and has nominated me to create a post on the topic “Being You And Only You”.

321 Quote Me – Being You, Only You!

Rules: 3.2.1 Quote Me!

Thank the Selector – Thank you Rory!

Post 2 quotes for the dedicated Topic of the Day.

Select 3 bloggers to take part in ‘3.2.1 Quote Me!’

Dedicated Topic For Today: “Being You, Only You!”

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you and only youI remembered that I was tagged for a “3.2.1 Quote Me!” Challenge on this same topic last year. At the time it was all new to me. I had only just discovered Rory (A Guy Called Bloke) and it was my first quote post. I didn’t know what to do!

This was my post back then:

The Britchy One Has Nominated Me For 3.2.1 – Quote Me! “Being You And Only You”

This time round, I have two different quotes, both of which struck more of a chord with me:

I chose this one because although I am not sure what the originator had in mind, it is something I certainly relate to. I am a people person. I like to walk this journey of life with people, not alone.

But it is very true, no can walk this walk through life for you. Sometimes I would have loved to have avoided some of the responsibilities that come with free will. But I have made decisions that for the most part I am very very happy about. I do have some regrets of course – mainly centred around my ex-flatmate Jack actually. And of course I regret going to the park on my own that night.

Making decisions and learning to live with them, and making the most of each new circumstance in life I have found myself in – its what makes me me. We all have our unique journey through life. It is great to walk with others, but we all have our own responsibilities and challenges that we alone have to carry.

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I am content with who I am. I have a healthy amount of self-esteem. I am aware of some strengths and also aware of some weaknesses. I know my good habits and my bad habits. I know the parts of me that I am chuffed to bits about and am so grateful for all those who have helped build those parts of me. However, I also know there are parts I am not proud of and would like to change. But I know it’s important to remain balanced. Just as it is not good to think you are perfect and without reproach, neither is it healthy to feel you are unlovable and worthless.

I try to remember to keep aiming high. Regardless of how other people behave or how others may treat me, I want to be the best version of me. I want to keep aiming to be more beautiful – and I mean beautiful on the inside. I want to fortify all the good and eradicate the not so good. Everyday I will miss the mark in numerous ways. But I don’t let it conquer me. I think about why I may have been less than I would like to be, and think about what I would do differently if a similar situation confronts me.

Always learning, always growing, always balancing.

Last year, I published a post about a stage in my life when I did have a real crises in confidence and something really encouraging that happened to me;

Every single person has their own road to walk, their own story to tell – every person is precious. There is only one you. We need you very much!!!

Ooooh…and now the three bloggers I am going to tag to take on the “3.2.1 Quote Me!” Challenge are: