Jack has a wonderful habit, one that I suppose is ever so slightly annoying when I am tired an irritable, but one that makes me so glad that he is the man I am going to marry. If ever I am grumpy and grouchy – which is only if I ever come across someone who is obnoxious – Jack will listen patiently while I voice my gripe, and then he will ask me a question:
“What is the loving thing to do about that?”
I love that he asks me that question (yes, initially it might not be what I want to hear) because he helps me to remember the person I am, the person I am always trying to protect and preserve despite the smog of the world.
I know that living the way of love is truly the best way of life!!!
During the past couple of weekends, Jack has heard some of the things that are on my mind, and one of them has been people who seem impossible to please. Are there people in your life – they may be neighbours, relatives, friends or colleagues – who, even when you do what you know is good, right and kind, seem to only have a harsh word for you?
I have a just a small handful of people in my life like that right now, one in particular, who seems hostile. It doesn’t matter how polite and kind I am, how helpful I try to be, how generally lovely I am to them…all I receive back is scowls, snarls, eye-rolling, criticism, and rebukes. I have gone from being generally lovely to being extra special superbly lovely – and the reaction has been even more cold.
Well…I told Jack how it has been tiring me to have to deal with this. He listened, and hugged me and he asked me…
“What is the loving thing to do about that Melody Finch?”