Riya Really Has Nominated Me For The Liebster Award

Riya, the creator of WORLD OF MY THOUGHTS, really has nominated me for THE LIEBSTER AWARD, this time. Here is the proof:

https://worldofmythoughts2017.wordpress.com/2019/10/12/liebster-award2/

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Award Rules:

1. Thank the blogger who nominated you – THANK YOU RIYA!
2. Share 11 facts about yourself.
3. Answer the 11 questions the blogger asked you.
4. Nominate 11 bloggers and make them happy!
5. Make up to 11 questions and ask to your nominees.
6. Notify your 11 nominees.

Questions From Riya

What really makes you angry?

Girl, Sitting, Tailor Seat, Cross-LeggedI don’t often show my anger, so not many people would know the answer to that question. I find myself becoming more and more shocked at how spoilt some western people seem. Already with far far more than over half the world’s population…but it is never enough. People who want more and more, and don’t realize how many of our fellow human family live on $1 or $2 a day. I often wonder if they think about what they are saying when they complain.

I feel angry inside when I hear people say things that indicate they feel there is nothing wrong with the world the way it is. When they display a love for things and having more and more. More money, more possessions, bigger and better. When they show that all they think about is themselves. When they show they do not care about the poverty and deprivation in the world. When it’s clear that pollution, crime, warfare, disease have not yet touched them personally and so their whole attitude to life is “I’m alright Jack!” (The allegorical Jack, not my Jack.)

I am shocked by people who deny the atrocious criminal acts like the Holocaust, or they think it inconsequential that there is so much bloodguilt due to horrendous injustices like the Crusades, or the invasion of other lands in a mercenary spirit. I have such an aversion to racism, superiority of race, “class” systems and the mistreatment of members of our human family.

I feel anger inside, but it is very rare that anybody sees me express anger.

annabelle angryIn the past I had less caution when it came to challenging those who made me very angry, because I saw them as callous and dangerous. I remember a heated exchange between me and a drug-dealer, who I realized had started to hang around some of the teeagers I was working with on voluntary projects. I don’t think I would do that now, there have been so many stabbings in London over the past few years. The climate has changed.

That chap by the way, after what I said to him…I found out later that whatever I said really did affect him. He got very drunk that night I was told later. And then the next day told his cousin about what I had said. I just happened to move to that area around a year a later, and he followed me around like a puppy. I was told that he had cleaned up his life. Two years later he asked me to marry him. But the point is,  wouldn’t get angry and shout at a drug-dealer nowadays. Not that they don’t deserve it, but it could be very dangerous.

If you could only eat one meal for the rest of your life, what would it be?

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I couldn’t do that. I need variety. I would go crazy having the same meal every day. But if I was forced to eat the same meal over and over, it would have to have green vegetables. I feel poorly if I don’t have plenty of green vegetables. So yes, I guess I would have to choose either a big salad or a dish or cooked vegetables…and I wouldn’t mind some rice, or bread on the side to stodge it all out a bit.

What is your biggest fear?

warzonePeople I love doing something stupid, and I mean that in a moral sense. I mean them committing horrific crimes. Especially in the future, when the issue of rulership comes to a head.

When all mankind has to face the decision of who should rule, what if people I love choose human rulership? What if they tried to attack violently those who want our Creator to rule?  Why would they feel that way when the results of human rulership are so obviously dreadful? Would people I love be swept up with the propaganda and actually go out and commit horrific acts of violence?

When people are blinded by propaganda they sometimes go out and do terrible things believing they are right or righteous. I fear someone I love going out and committing such atrocities and not being able to reason with them.

I fear those I love becoming so swept up with propaganda that they end up doing wicked things.

What has been your best moment this year?

Oh wow! So hard to pick. It’s a close call. Life has been a bit of a chequer board this year.

wow momwntGoing to the Doctor because I had been feeling so ill and being told to take a pregnancy test was a big moment. A very big moment. And it was wonderfully exciting. But later, pain came.

Being with Goldfinch in the summer was really special – I was living the dream, truly – and I felt pure happiness right up until I realized it was time to say goodbye and return to England. After intense happiness, pain came.

Receiving that phone-call from Jack was incredible. Meeting up with him for the first time in over four years was terrifying, but it turned out to be remarkable. I just hope this happiness does not result in pain.

If You Could Live Anywhere In The World For A Year, Where Would It Be?

I would have loved to have stayed out in Adelaide for a year with Goldfinch. I was so happy there. I loved what I saw of Australia. But it was being with him that meant so much.

jack and caramel1.jpgThings have changed of course, since the summer. It would be wonderful to spend a year travelling around either the whole of Africa, or South America, with Jack. I have a dream of travelling the whole world together with the man I love. Travelling as slowly as is possible, by boat and on foot. Truly immersing ourselves in the culture and cuisine everywhere we go.

How do you relieve stress?

I try to avoid stress. I keep my lifestyle simple and I live within my means. If I detect I am starting to feel a bit worked up, which can happen when the pace is crazy at work, I just take a few moments to remind myself that no matter how much work there is to do, I need to remain calm in order to listen to clients and respond effectively. We can’t afford to make mistakes.

sparksIf there is stress in my personal life, I remind myself that we all have challenges in our lives. Many of them are temporary. I try to cheer myself by thinking of all the beautiful, all the wonderful there is in life. It helps me feel I can endure anything until our Creator puts things right and undoes the damage.

If I need help to get control of my thoughts, I might speak to a close friend or family member. I pray as well. I find that helps enormously and it helps me keep my balance. Often solutions come to my mind on how to deal with stressful situations while I am praying.

Would You Rather Go To Space Or To The Bottom Of The Ocean?

Ocean for me. I have always loved swimming and since I was a very little girl I have wanted to research whales. Especially the blue whale.

Blue whale

It is a dream of mine to study our oceans and the life that dwells within them.

What’s your favorite season?

Summer – hands down, no competition. I love the summer time for the kind of life I lead during the summer!

What’s your favorite sports?

I have always loved sports. I love running around. I like to play in defence because I have no fear of tackling anyone and I don’t tire of energy…but I have very little skill, so I try to win the ball and then pass it to a team-mate who is more skillful.

best sportOf all the sports I have enjoyed, I think my favourite was basketball. I started to play every Friday evening every Friday evening, with a group of friends. There would be anywhere between ten and thirty of us, mostly men, but a few girlies.  I absolutely loved playing basketball before my head injuries. It was so much fun.

I wonder if I should remind Jack of the time he laughed when a friend of ours, Dwayne, knocked me flying and I landed on my behind. All the guys rushed over to make sure I was alright except Jack. Jack laughed! I was fuming with him. Well…if I do mention it, it will be in a nice way.

Ice cream or milkshakes?

havenot hadI am not very good with dairy. So I have not had a milkshake for a long time. I would have to choose a dairy free ice-cream.

Recently, I was over at a friend’s home for dinner and she had bought me some dairy free ice-cream to have with the dessert she had made.

It was Alpro Almond Salted Caramel. I think it is made with almond milk. But there was a lot of caramel sauce and caramel chunks going on in the middle. Very nice.

New York or Paris?

Is this for a short visit, or to live long term?

to live.pngIn the past I would have said New York for a visit – seems like a very exciting place to visit. But Paris to live. (However, seeing all those protests has kind of put me off Paris.)

I would choose Paris to live partly because it is closer to England, where my family are, because their food and bread are amazing, and because I would love to polish up my French. Jack speaks fluent French. He lived there for a couple of years. I love the sense of culture that I have seen when I have been in France. I love the boulangeries and the patisseries and the countryside. But I don’t know Paris. I would like to explore Paris at a leisurely pace.

But yes, I have always wanted to visit New York for a short time. Did I tell you already that Jack is in New York for a week?

Eleven Questions For My Nominees

  1. DO YOU HAVE ANY PETS?
  2. HAVE YOU EVER VISITED LONDON? IF YOU WERE GOING TO COME FOR THE FIRST TIME, WHAT WOULD YOU LIKE TO SEE?
  3. IF THERE WAS A CRIME IN YOUR HOME, WHICH LITERARY OR TELEVISION DETECTIVE WOULD YOU LIKE TO SOLVE IT?
  4. WHAT KIND OF LUNCH DO YOU TAKE TO OR BUY AT WORK?
  5. DESCRIBE THE PERFECT FOOTWEAR FOR YOU?
  6. DO YOU GET NERVOUS AT PARTIES OR BIG SOCIAL EVENTS?
  7. WHAT’S THE HOUSEHOLD CHORE THAT YOU DREAD THE MOST?
  8. DO YOU HAVE AN EMERGENCY GRAB BAG? IF SO WHAT’S IN IT? IF NOT – WHY NOT?
  9. DO YOU HAVE ANY FAMOUS FRIENDS? OR HAVE YOU MET ANYONE FAMOUS?
  10. WHEN SOMEONE REVEALS YOU HAVE MADE A MISTAKE – IS YOUR FIRST IMPULSE TO DEFEND YOURSELF AND EXPLAIN WHAT HAPPENED, OR DO YOU QUICKLY ADMIT YOUR MISTAKE AND APOLOGISE?
  11. WHO CUTS YOUR HAIR? HOW OFTEN DO YOU HAVE IT CUT?

My Eleven Nominees

Sadje Has Nominated Me For The Liebster Award

Lovely Sadje, the creator of Keep it alive, has nominated me for THE LIEBSTER AWARD as you can see from her post below:

Liebster Award # 7

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Rules

1. Thank the blogger who nominated you – THANK YOU SADJE!
2. Share 11 facts about yourself
3. Answer the questions the blogger asked you
4. Nominate 11 other bloggers
5. Ask your nominees 11 questions

…so here we go!

Facts About Me

This always throws me. What can I tell you that you do not already know?

  • sign languageI began learning British Sign Language when I was sixteen and acted as an interpreter for friends and clients who were deaf for ten years.
  • I don’t want a smartphone ever again. My basic phone is perfectly adequate for texting and calling.
  • I love making cheesecakes, but I am not good with dairy, so I make them as a dessert to take to a friend’s dinner party.
  • I love cleaning and ironing – absolutely love all aspects of housework. I don’t understand people who need to hire a cleaner to do what they should be doing (unless they are physically unable to). The only plus is that I am paid £15 per hour (I have a stupid client who pays me £20 per hour) to do something tremendously satisfying and completely unstressful. Love it!
  • I love picnics – one of my favourite memories with Goldfinch is picnicking with him. So lovely! I am looking forward to spring and summer with Jack – lots of picnics ahead!
  • My hair needs a trim!
  • I love karaoke.
  • future.pngI still hope to learn how to play the guitar properly and the piano. I found music lessons discouraging at school to be honest. I was given a tenor horn (not my choice) to learn to play. It was a nightmare to transport it on the school bus, so I gave up.
  • My sisters and I were competitive swimmers. I think we lost interest because we weren’t particularly competitive. Winning is so overrated.
  • I have a very bad head ache right now. I always have head pain in the morning, but since I had that wooden roof fall on my nose, my headaches have been lasting all day. I absolutely love falling asleep at night because that is the only time the pain is not making everything a challenge (yes, I went to hospital and had a CT scan a few days after it happened).
  • sailingI intend to travel the whole earth, as slowly as possible. I hope that will be in a boat, that I have made. Only I don’t really want to do it alone. I would like the man I am in love with to have built the boat with me, and to be sailing with me. It makes me feel so excited to think of all the members of my human family that I have never met yet. I would love to meet them and for them to share their “corner” of the globe with me. Their cuisine, their music and dance, their culture, and the natural beauty of their home, the local wildlife. I am looking forward to the adventure of  lifetime! I would like to live and work everywhere on the planet.

Questions From Sadje

Are you a serious blogger or just having fun here?

satisfyingWhat is a serious blogger? Is it a blogger who really knows what they are doing? Someone who has been able to create a beautiful website and perhaps uses it professionally? Perhaps they produce helpful articles, substantiated with extensive references? Perhaps they also have links to other online resources, affiliate links or other recommendations? Perhaps they have mometirsed their blog or use it to promote their business? Is that a serious blogger?

If so no, I am not. But I do have an organized approach to writing posts. But I am an organized kind of person. I am having fun. I would say it’s much more fun than serious for me.

What was the reason that made you start a blog?

love letterStuart, from Croydon, was the one who made me take the plunge.  He and I used to be in touch a lot, mainly via e-mail. He was kind and said he looked forward to coming home from work and catching up with my long e-mails. (I have been writing letter and e-mails to family and friends since I was a child.)

Stuart said: “YOU SHOULD START A BLOG”.  I thought that was like mum telling me to go and try out for some television singing competition and stand in front of Simon Cowell. In addition, I did not really know what a blog was. I had not seen them for myself.  I thought it was a glorified version of Instagram.  I had never used Facebook or Twitter or all the social media networks.

I also thought it a bit odd to write something strangers would read.  All my letters and e-mails have been to friends and family I know and love. So it was easy to know what to talk about, what they will be interested in, what they will find amusing or meaningful.  How on earth do you know what to write to complete strangers?

I was afraid that anything I wrote and published would be ignored or criticised.  I enjoyed writing, I didn’t particularly want to invite a dish load of negative feedback.  That was the last thing I needed.

relazSo…to say the least I did not have very high expectations of blogging! But, a friend who used WordPress set up an account for me and picked some of the short stories I had and posted them all on the same day. Nothing happened. Hardly any feedback. But then I started participating in writing prompts and things got more interesting. It brought me into contact with some great bloggers.

I don’t have any particular ambition for my blog. I have to be realistic about what I can and can’t do. But it is much more enjoyable and satisfying that I ever imagined.

Take a while to think and let us know: what object that is in your reach right now, influences you? ( e g a tv)

Erm…my Nespresso machine?

It’s very helpful when it comes to my morning routine especially.

First thing in the morning, it takes a while for my head to settle. I always wake up with head pain. (I have for the past four years, since I received major head injuries.) So I have a coffee, a slice of toasted dark sourdough with goats butter and perhaps some avocado or hummus and some ibuprofen…and I wait. I wait for my head pain to ease and for my brain to feel a bit more awake.

How do you relax?

curled upLots of ways. I like variety.

I find it relaxing to go for a long walk. My legs don’t find that relaxing, but my mind sure does! If I realize I need to be alone, I usually put my hiking boots and head off and just let myself work out anything that is a bit unsettling.

But I find it more relaxing to be with people I love. I love being with friends for a meal, chatting and laughing. I love being with Jack. I think I relax more with company than without. But I know at times I need to be on my own for a bit.

I like writing letters and e-mails to friends and family, or writing a post for CRUSHED CARAMEL. I like baking. I like reading. I love swimming! I love being in the water.

Are you superstitious?

Nope. I have a couple of friends who are. They do some pretty odd things, and as far as I can see they have no more or worse a lot than anyone else. They just look odd, when they take pains to avoid something they think will bring a curse, or keep trying to find something wooden to knock on.

Loyalty to the one you love, or one who is right?

loyal.jpegWhat kind of loyalty? Nobody is perfect. We all do and say things that are off the mark. So we all need loyal love, underserved kindness, graciousness form others. I would maintain loyal friendship and support to someone who might injure me or do something wrong. That might mean forgiving them or overlooking what they have done.

But if I became aware that someone I loved had done something seriously wrong and reprehensible, I wouldn’t remain silent. I would not consider it loving to cover over something terrible. It would not be in their best interests. I would be as supportive as I could, but I would appeal to them that they cannot hide the wrong they had done.

How can we improve the environment of our planet? Do you take any practical steps towards it?

I’ve been involved in tidy-up projects, in areas were people have illegally dumped rubbish. After seeing media coverage of the smaller things that individuals can do to cut down on single use plastic.

20180310_214048I have not bought any bottled water (I used to buy it for work) for a couple of years. I just use my reusable water bottle. I also have a reusable coffee cup (two actually) that I take around with me. I use canvass shopping bags (which so far have lasted me for several years) instead of plastic carrier bags.

I wash at 30 unless it’s dirty. I use public transport or walk (I have not driven since I received head injuries, but I am often a passenger in someone else’s car). I shop in charity shops for clothes (I buy underwear and work shoes new though.) In other words, I try to do what has been suggested will help to make a difference. I just happen to have been vegetarian (nearly vegan) since I was six years old. Some reports say that is good for the planet.

Plastic waste floating in a canal in Amsterdam, The Netherlands

But I still see how much packaging there is on products I might buy in the supermarket or when I order something online. I see scenes of the kind of damage that has already been done on a large scale, often due to industrial enterprises. I think all of us find it very disturbing to realize how much has just been dumped into our oceans (or on land, but has made it’s way into the oceans).

My belief is that the entire economic system which is so much based around consumerism has to change. While money is the driving factor in what “makes the world go round”, the entire economic system is not going to change. But our Creator has promised to change that.

What is one habit you have that you or your family think is childish?

I can only think of one. It’s a life-long habit that I have often been scolded about. Leaving the house with wet hair (even in the winter). Everyone has been telling me I will catch a cold one day or end up with arthritis.

cooling.jpgWhen we were little girls we used to swim with a local club, at least three times a week after school (for several hours). We loved swimming. We were always in the pool until closing time, trying to pretend we didn’t hear the calls from the lifeguards and our parents that it was closing time. So when we climbed out of the pool, we didn’t have time to dry our hair properly because they wanted to lock the doors! We would run out into the cold hair with dripping hair and run as fast as we could to the car (sometimes we would run to the chip shop begging out parents to buy us a bag of chips to share in the car).

Eleven Questions For My Nominees

  1. Do you have a favourite musical artist or band you love listening to?
  2. When you were a child where you assigned chores to help out at home?
  3. Do you enjoy going to parties, or do they make you nervous?
  4. Have you ever been baffled or scared when someone expresses their political opinions?
  5. Have you had any issues with self-confidence?
  6. What kind of holidays/vacations do you enjoy? (I am thinking of travel rather than religious celebrations.)
  7. Where do you feel most like “yourself”?
  8. What is the biggest lesson you have learnt from your own mistakes?
  9. Is there any advice you received from others that has made a difference to you?
  10. Do you have any physical scars from injuries (or surgery) that have an interesting story behind them?
  11. Have you ever had a big disappointment which took you some time to recover from?

My Nominees

Riya Did Nominate Me For The Liebster Award – I Was Just A Bit Impatient

annie listening1.pngA few weeks ago, I had a message in my notifications a while ago from Riya, the creator of WORLD OF MY THOUGHTS, saying that she had nominated me for THE LIEBSTER AWARD. Here we go…I have copied and pasted the message in my notifications, just in case you start to doubt me:

Riya Gupta commented on I’d Wait Til The End Of Time For You
Nominated you for the Liebster Award…!!!!

Puzzled blonde two females stand close to each other, curve lipsHowever, search though I might, I could not find any of her LIEBSTER AWARD posts that mentioned me being a nominee. So pragmatic as I am, rather than be annoying, I just thought I would pick the most recent LIEBSTER AWARD post on Riya’s site and use the questions from that. However, since I put this post together, Riya has actually published another LIEBSTER AWARD post and there I am listed as a nominee. So I am NOW working on that! However, this post was ready to roll, so after all the effort these posts take, I was hardly going to scrap it!

This was Riya’s previous LIEBSTER AWARD post…and if you care to check…it does not mention me at all…but this is what we are rolling with – ok!!!

https://worldofmythoughts2017.wordpress.com/2018/08/18/the-liebster-award/

Rules

  • Acknowledge the blogger that gave it to you and display the award – THANK YOU RIYA!!!
  • Answer 8 questions that the blogger gave you
  • Give 8 random thoughts about yourself – which I have done, but I cheated…mostly copy and paste from another post job I am afraid…I was tired!!
  • Nominate 8 other bloggers and notify them of their nomination
  • Ask your nominees 8 questions – also borrowed from another of my posts – this tiredness malarkey is dictating.

Questions from Riya:

Are you crazy behind something or someone? Why?

ironingCrazy behind something? I am a little behind with my ironing at the moment. There is a great stack of laundry waiting to be pressed. But I love ironing, so that is alright.

I am also a little behind with replying to some of the e-mails I have received in the past few weeks. I have been replying with short messages and promising everyone I will send a longer message when I have time. My trip in the summer knocked me off schedule with everything…and then I came back and found my mind giving attention to my fictional character Annabelle Riley. Now that a blast from the past has steamrollered into my life…I can see that I will be falling behind even further with all sorts! But in a way…it will be nice to send e-mails to friends after Christmas (when we are going to tell our families the news) and have something wonderful to share with them.

If I give you a million dollar, what will you do with it?

fat catsA million dollars is more than one person should ever possess. I have never earnt more than £10,000 a year. (If you know nothing about me, that’s because since I was sixteen years of age I have spent most of my time doing voluntary work for charities.) So in my mind, I have a top limit as to how much money it is appropriate for one person to possess. Beyond a point, it becomes disgusting. I do not agree with people having that much. I think it is grossly absurd for the economy to allow that to happen. We should work for what we need and a little extra to be able to share hospitality with others. Then give the rest away. Greedily hoarding is nonsensical.

walkers legs.jpgI wiped out almost all of my savings on my trip to Australia in the summer, so it would be nice to replenish my savings, so that I wasn’t having to eek everything out so much. I was always told you should have three months rent in the bank. I don’t want to actually buy a house (I understand that people might want a sense of security, but what’s the point of investing in this system?) and I don’t want a car, I like walking because it keeps my legs looking lovely and if I need to go far, London’s public transport system is great. I have more clothes and shoes than I can fit comfortably in my wardrobe. Charity shops have kept me well-supplied.

food1.jpegSo I reckon if I take the three months rent, another £1000 so I can go to Australia again without scrimping and saving…well that’s all less than £3000. So anything more than that, I need to share out. I would make sure people I love and know have what they need, three months rent etc.

I know which of my friends are materialistic in their thinking. Why would I feed that ugly trait? I am not going to buy luxuries for anyone. But I would like to make sure none of my loved ones were in debt and that they had what they needed. How can anyone of good conscience and sound mind really enjoy wasting money on luxuries, when there are so many people who are wasting away with malnutrition? I would probably check with Goldfinch if there is anything special he would like – it would be so nice to be able to afford to buy him something special. He is always going to be very special to me. But I would keep within a sensible limit. Just because I love him, I am not going to express that love by lining coffers of greedy retailers.

important quote.jpgThen with the rest of the money, I would give it to the kind of charities I love working with. Charities that use both donations and their assets very carefully and do things that actually make sense. There are lots of “causes” out there, many of which I don’t think are particularly effective. But charities that don’t just throw relief at people in need, but go into areas and provide useful training and facilities, education and empowerment. Make that money have longer lasting effects. That way the money could actually touch and make a difference to the lives of many, actually many millions of people.

Open my blog, read each poem and say at least 20 words about each one of them along with a link to the respective one. How’s my blog overall?

satisfyingWow…that would be quite a task indeed. This is suddenly feeling like not so much the Liebster Award but the Liebster Inquisition. It’s always a pleasure to open your blog Riya and happily read some of the posts I have previously missed. But I am not going to link and comment on twenty of them! Ay karumba!

I will say this though…I would not be following you if I did not enjoy your posts and think that you are a very eager blogger who is very pleasant to have in this blogging community. I will include links to a couple of my favourite posts from your site:

https://worldofmythoughts2017.wordpress.com/2019/08/30/the-limitless-ocean/

https://worldofmythoughts2017.wordpress.com/2017/09/22/a-broken-heart/

What’s your dream holiday destination and why?

adelaideCurrently I will still say Adelaide. Although there have been some recent developments in my life that may seem to make that sound strange. I would like to see Goldfinch and make sure he really is ok with everything going on for me here in London. I care about him so much. He has been so sweet about everything. He says he is happy for me and that makes him happy. But still…it’s hard to stop worrying when I am so far away. He will never have any problem finding someone to like him. He is gorgeous. But I always fear – there are a lot of selfish people out there. I want a wonderful caring, kind hearted woman for him…her being beautiful and rich might be a welcome thing in his eyes.

sailingIn the future I would like to travel EVERYWHERE! Hopefully by boat, as slowly as possible! I have big plans for forever! There is no place on earth that I don’t want to see for myself. You may have never met me…but I am coming to visit one day – I promise! It might be a few hundred years, or a few thousand, or even a few million. But I am on my way. I can’t wait to meet you…and I hope you will show me your favourite places and share the music, the food and everything you love about where it is that you call “home”.

What’s that one thing which you love about yourself? And which you hate about yourself?

annie mirror1I don’t really hate anything about myself. There are things I am not especially happy with, but I am content with the entire package. I would never go so far as to use the word “hate”. Rather a dramatic word isn’t it. But of course, there are parts of me (my love-handles for instance) that I am not particularly fond of. I am always a “work-in-progress”. But I am happy with me!

What do I love about myself? Well, mainly I love that I am the daughter of two amazing parents. I hit the jackpot being born to them!

Before doing something, what do you think of, your pleasures or societal pressures?

annie leavingI am guessing that this “something” I am potentially about to do is not a simple affair, like having a cup of tea. It would have to be pretty significant for me to contemplate whether I am doing it for my own pleasure or because society is pressuring me into doing it.

With regard to pressure from “society”…I am more than happy to conform to anything that is obviously sensible and wholesome.

But I think I do escape a lot of the “pressure” and influence of the media by not watching much television and not having a smartphone. I am oblivious to a lot of trends that grip people and make them spend their time, energy and money in questionable ways. My family are very good at getting on with life the way we know it, and not allowing the commercial system to dictate to us. We don’t waste money on buying rubbish during all these nonsensical “holidays”. No way!

What is the most regrettable incidence of your life?

AmbulanceI guess it would have to be that night I went to the park. Waking up in an ambulance…just proves what a regrettable decision I made the night before in not wanting to go home because I was so in anguish about the situation between me and my ex-flatmate.

But it has passed. Right now, I am just so glad to be enjoying a good relationship with my ex-flatmate. Well, a very good relationship actually 😉

How many countries have you traveled so far? Which one did you like the most?

hols.jpgI think a total of fourteen different countries. Which did I like the most? Hmm.

Well…there was a very special someone in Australia who made my trip there one of the happiest holidays of my life.

But I always felt that Sweden was a country I could fall in love with and that I could happily live there for the rest of my life. The things we did in Sweden! It was the most thrilling holiday I have ever enjoyed! Boy oh boy – and we only paid for our flights. Everything else was because of amazing friends.

Out of the world, what makes you the happiest?

“Out of the world”…, as I have no experience in outer-world travel as of yet, I am taking this question to mean what makes me happiest in all the world, rather than out of the world.

What makes me happiest? I am no stranger to happiness. There is a very long list of things and people that trigger ripples and waves of happy thoughts. feelings and memories. 

Do you think your life is worth living? I want a reason.

Riya has requested a reason…so I shall supply a reason, or perhaps a number of reasons – let’s see how generous I am feeling today!

warzoneI will say this first…we have all been born in the middle of a warzone – all of us. Our Creator has an enemy who is on a “rule-or-ruin” mission. The scale of ruination can be very distressing at times. People are being stripped of all dignity and treated cruelly. Animals and our environment are being devastated. Disease, war, crime ravage individuals, families, communities. The issue of rulership is being decided. There is already a huge amount of testimonial record of how independence from our Creator affects mankind and the rest of creation on Planet Earth. The end is in sight! Very soon…this earth will come under the rule of our loving Creator! Life will be better than you and I have ever been allowed to imagine.

Despite the dismal, devastating, degrading acts that humans have carried out towards other humans and the creatures we share our beautiful home with…life can be very beautiful even now. Just think of all that our Creator has provided which makes our spirits soar! 

Love…love makes life something quite spectacular. Family, friends and even strangers…love produces smiles, deep joy, warmth and security.

Work…can be very satisfying and rewarding. I know some jobs feel like “dead-end jobs”…that is part of this stinking economic system. Personally I could only handle that kind of monotony if I had wonderful things to occupy myself with when I was not at work.

Creation…someone with an incredible and beautiful imagination took great care to design a beautiful home…and incredible creatures – and he made it our home. He assigned us to care for it, to make paradise flourish all over it. Soon we will be able to enjoy the quality of life He intended for us.

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Hope…as well as all of the other remarkable assurances our Creator has made, including and end to war, crime, abuse, disease and old age…there is something simply astonishing ahead of us: the resurrection of humans who have died since Adam’s rebellion. Billions of people will wake up. I have a list of people, friends and family members who I miss very much. I can’t wait to see them! I do believe, that once the earth is a global paradise, which is only going to happen under our creator’s rulership, the period of human history when the resurrection occurs will be the best yet! Tears of joy…welcome back parties, building homes for our loved ones who we lost because of the war that has been waging since that pivotal moment in the garden of Eden.

look aheadAnd he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore – Rev 21:4

A clean earth, a happy healthy human family, thriving creatures and environment, no stress, no pain, no grief! Keep living! Your future is going to be wonderful!!! Never feel alone…see the entire human family as relatives you have not had chance to get to know properly. You will have chance to work alongside many who you have not met yet perhaps, working on making this earth a paradise. Then at the end of a day of satisfying work, we can relax with good food, great music, stunning views of the scenery and I am sure we will have so much to talk about…and thank our Creator for!

I googled “thank you songs” and a song came up that made me think about how it will feel for the entire human family to be united in thanking our Creator for cleaning our earth of wickedness, injustice, corruption, pollution and the cold hearted quest for profit. Can you imagine life when all creation is thriving like our Creator originally intended. It makes my heart thrilled by the thought of what is ahead of us!

Eight Random Facts About Moi:

  • I used to open Robbie Williams’ fan mail. It was my job, I wasn’t a stalker!
  • I love karaoke!
  • My voice used to be heard by shoppers visiting a popular retail chain. I did a series of recorded promotions along the lines of: “Good morning ladies and gentleman and welcome to (THE NAME OF THE STORE). Our winter sale is now on and you can save up to 50% on all clothing ranges. Find winter essentials for the whole family. Thank you for shopping at…” The recordings were played every fifteen – twenty minutes at stores in the UK.
  • I have been vegetarian since I was six years old.
  • laneI live in London – like many young Londoners I have had to move a number of times. In the nine years I have lived in London, I have lived in six different properties.
  • I have fallen off three buses in my life, once off the school bus when I was fourteen, ended up with a back-slab on for weeks and had to use crutches. And twice on packed London buses.
  • My primary school was burnt down to the ground when I was seven years of age. For years our whole primary school had to be transported on double-decker buses to a high school on the opposite side of our town that had some spare classrooms.
  • Candles scare me. In the town I grew up in there were a lot of deadly house fires due to accidents with candles or cigarette stubs that had not been extinguished properly. The houses on the council estate I grew up on would burn up like cardboard. Whole families have been lost in some of the fires that occurred. Very upsetting. Whenever anyone gives me candles as a gift, I give them away to someone else, normally a charity shop.

Eight Questions For My Nominees

  1. HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN BLOGGING FOR?
  2. FANCY DRESS PARTIES – WHAT HAVE YOU DRESSED UP AS?
  3. WHICH SONGS WOULD YOU SING IN THE SHOWER WHEN YOU THINK NOBODY CAN HEAR?
  4. IS ANYONE ELSE IN YOUR FAMILY A BLOGGER OR VLOGGER?
  5. DO YOU EVER FEEL DISCOURAGED ABOUT BLOGGING?  WHAT DO YOU DO TO KEEP YOURSELF MOTIVATED?
  6. WHAT IS YOUR MOST EMBARRASSING MEMORY OR EXPERIENCE?
  7. DO YOU HAVE A FAVOURITE TV DETECTIVE?
  8. IF YOU COULD HAVE ONE PERFECT DAY – WHERE WOULD IT BE? WHO WOULD YOU BE WITH? WHAT WOULD YOU EAT?  (That is several questions rolled into one – but we would love to know what would make a perfect day to you.

My Nominees

Glen McKenzie Has Nominated Me For The Liebster Award

Today is my one day of rest in this busy fortnight where I am working thirteen out of fourteen days 😦 and yet somehow I have managed to promise I will run errands for my landlady and make hummus and crudites for her. I seem to spend an inordinate amount of time chopping up carrots, peppers, celery and cucumber. Well, I have promised, so I will keep my word.

Thank goodness I have so many almost completed posts in my drafts folder at the moment. It is great to spend the little time I have polishing them up ready for you. I have really enjoyed preparing this post.

I have been nominated for The Liebster Awarrd by the inspiring Glen McKenzie, creator of justabitfurther where we find posts that encourage all of us to “get outdoors; find inspiration; discover yourself”. Have a look at Glen’s own fabulous Liebster Award post:

https://justabitfurther.wordpress.com/2018/12/19/first-liebster-award/

Rules

  • Acknowledge the blogger that gave it to you and display the award – Thank you Glen!
  • Answer 8 questions that the blogger gave you
  • Give 8 random thoughts about yourself
  • Nominate 8 other bloggers and notify them of their nomination
  • Ask your nominees 8 questions

Questions From Glen

How did you pick your blog’s name?

salted caramel muffinIt was a rather random choice as a result of brainstorming with a friend. I think my blog-name may have caused confusion because the first dozen bloggers who followed my site were foodie bloggers. But I do like caramel very much.

CARAMEL is the protagonist on my site, who is me…CRUSHED because I was crushed by an extraordinary situation that developed with my ex-flatmate, and at my lowest point when I was struggling the most, I stayed out later than I should and ended up sitting tearfully on a park bench. That night … well, I have written about it in other posts. Something terrible happened to me.

My friend helped me set up the blog site back at the end of April 2018. Initially, he wanted me to post some of the personal accounts I had shared with him in e-mails. He loved the embarrassing stories I told him about from my early twenties. I knew there were a lot of other subjects I wanted to write about, including the events that crushed me.

platonic.jpgWe had a bit of a laugh brain storming over different names, but he suggested Caramel, because sometimes he has used that as a pet name for me. Actually he tends to call me Caramel Betty.  He always said he could never understand how Jack could have been so careless with someone so sweet and who is such a softie.

That was it. I remember looking at him and saying CRUSHEDCARAMEL, because I was crushed by what happened to me and that was one of the subjects I knew needed to escape from inside me, but I wanted the site to be light-hearted and fun – I hope that is the overall feel of the site. I want joy to dominate, but every now and then I need to write about what crushed me and in a way still does.

What advice can you give someone who is just starting out in the blogging world?

  • Be patient.
  • Enjoy writing and creating posts.
  • Read the posts from other successful bloggers and think about what makes their posts appealing and attractive. Learn from them.
  • Be a positive, encouraging breath of fresh air.
  • Be persistent. Try to publish a little something on a regular basis.
  • Get involved with commenting on other bloggers sites, and participating in challenges. We all like to know there is friendly human being behind the blog-site. Be safe and security conscious, but do share a bit of your personality.
  • Be patient – your statistics might be rather discouraging for a long time. So enjoy your writing and the interaction with other bloggers while you wait for more readers.

When you are new to blogging, the blogging world can be a bit like turning up at a party where everyone else seems to know each other and you don’t know them. So be polite, be personable, be appealing. There are bound to be other bloggers who will warm to you when you make an effort to interact. Back that up with creating your own great posts, so that when they check out your posts they want to keep coming back.

Enjoy the party!

If you are ever struggling – it’s ok to ask a blogger for help and advice. Other bloggers are human. It’s endearing when a new blogger is a little lost and asks for advice.

What is your perfect comfort food?

I find a lot of food comforting. I love food and would happily write about it all day. I follow a lot of foodie bloggers who all make me very hungry with the photos they post of their creations!

Years ago I had to walk home from high school (which was about four miles from our home) when we had a snow storm and the school buses could not run because of the roads. (That’s what happens in England when it snows – we are a bit pathetic!)

I did not even have a coat – just my school uniform. I was not properly dressed for the cold at all! It was dark, cold and I was shivering. But I remember passing a girl who was a couple of years younger than me who did not have her school blazer. So she was walking home in a thin blouse and a skirt, which was rather on the short side and a pair of flimsy ballet shoes. She was in tears. I was really worried about her. I gave her my blazer (so now I was the one in the thin blouse!) and told her to walk with me. I knew I was stronger physically than she was. I kept her morale up and because she had an even longer journey to her home on the other side of town, I took her home to our house. The poor little thing.

Mum told her to wait in our house until Dad came home from work and then he would make sure she reached home safely and in the meantime my mum telephoned her mum. Then Mum made us some delicious veggie soup and hot toast lathered with melting butter. I always remember how it felt to have that meal after we had been so bitterly cold.

Who is your favourite blogging person you follow? And why?

Ooooh – are we allowed to choose favourites Glen?

I will mention one blogger though, Teresa Grabs, who is the creator of one of my favourite sites:

I started blogging back at the very end of April…so many bloggers that were around then don’t seem to be around now…that could be for many reasons. But she is one blogger who has been around all that time and has been consistent in producing wonderful pieces of fiction herself and in supporting the blogging community by providing writing prompts, fun questions challenges and a lot of open dialogue about the challenges in writing.

I have found Teresa extremely encouraging and a source of great practical advice. To me she is an exemplary blogger. The quality of Teresa’s own writing is superb, but also for the huge contribution she has made to other bloggers – I think she is top of the list of super-bloggers for me.

There are many other bloggers whom I follow and I love the variety of personalities that shine through. The different styles and outlooks and senses of humour. I love the wonderful diversity of posts and bloggers. It’s a party that never gets boring.

Describe yourself in three words.

Joyful

Sisterly

Content

What is your guiltiest pleasure?

Besides Goldfinch?

I try really hard not to buy them, but every now and then a bag of Tyrell’s Vegetable Crisps seems to fall from the supermarket shelves into my shopping basket!

I love them, my sister Milly loves them too! They are so delicious!

What is your most prized possession?

Super Sparrow Sports Water Bottle - 350ml & 500ml & 1000ml - Non-Toxic BPA Free & Eco-Friendly Tritan Co-Polyester Plastic - Fast Water Flow, Flip Top, Opens With 1-ClickI try not to get too attached to possessions.

But something I have been very pleased with is the one litre water bottle I have had since the spring time. It is a Super Sparrow Sports Water Bottle. It is a kind of teal colour. NO more buying bottled water. Now I fill up my own reusable water bottle. It has become my constant companion and I am rather attached to it now!

I keep wondering whether I should perhaps buy a smaller one. There are times when a one litre bottle is a bit big.

What single quality do you most appreciate in people?.

Kindness / Unselfishness

I know that is two…but sometimes people are kind for selfish reasons.

Kindness is a beautiful trait. My parents have instilled in me a huge love for kindness. Especially today when we might have no idea how much pain another human is carrying around inside, how close they are to breaking point – we should be generous with words and deeds of kindness.

What do you love most about blogging?

The human element. I am a people person. I love the other people who are blogging. The wonderful personalities and the different points of view, pastimes, passions reflected by the many bloggers out there.

I have really warmed to the personalities of many bloggers. It’s a pleasure to read their posts.

The interaction is a real bonus of blogging. I did not expect it when I started blogging. Some days I come home after a long day and I find the post I scheduled to be published early that morning has had some lovely feedback from other bloggers. It is so encouraging!

What’s the favourite post that you’ve published? (Link, please!)

Two BeesThere are a lot of posts on my site that I have really enjoyed putting together. Some of them I like to look back at and I really enjoy reading about the members of family or friends or special experiences I have had.

I also love all of the posts about Goldfinch. I have looked over a lot of them recently and they cheer me up enormously! This is one that celebrates the joy and excited he has stirred within me:

Eight Random Facts About Moi:

  • I used to open Robbie Williams’ fan mail
  • I love karaoke!
  • My voice used to be heard by shoppers visiting a popular retail chain. I did a series of recorded promotions along the lines of: “Good morning ladies and gentleman and welcome to (THE NAME OF THE STORE). Our winter sale is now on and you can save up to 50% on all clothing ranges. Find winter essentials for the whole family. Thank you for shopping at…” The recordings were played every fifteen – twenty minutes at stores in the UK.
  • Lots of people say they like my voice but have difficulty placing my accent. There is a little of the Liverpool accent (and sometimes I use expressions that seem to be only used in Liverpool) and a little of the broader Lancashire accent and a twang of Australian (my mum’s family are Australian) but I speak in a very clear English style. The tone of my voice is fairly soft and rhythmic. Many tell me to speak up because they cannot hear me when I speak at my natural volume. Some of my friends say they could listen to my voice droning all day because it calms them down. That has really helped when I have had to deal with aggressive patients while working in healthcare. I seem to calm them down just by speaking even if I am just talking about the weather, they seem distracted by my voice.
  • ironingI love ironing (almost as much as karaoke!)
  • I have fallen off three buses in my life, once off the school bus when I was fourteen, ended up with a back-slab on for weeks and had to use crutches. And twice on packed London buses.
  • My primary school was burnt down to the ground when I was seven years of age. For years our whole primary school had to be transported on double-decker buses to a high school on the opposite side of our town that had some spare classrooms.
  • Candles scare me. In the town I grew up in there were a lot of deadly house fires due to accidents with candles or cigarette stubs that had not been extinguished properly. The houses on the council estate I grew up on would burn up like cardboard. Whole families have been lost in some of the fires that occurred. Very upsetting. Whenever anyone gives me candles as a gift, I give them away to someone else, normally a charity shop.

Eight Questions For My Nominees

  1. HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN BLOGGING FOR?
  2. FANCY DRESS PARTIES – WHAT HAVE YOU DRESSED UP AS?
  3. WHICH SONGS WOULD YOU SING IN THE SHOWER WHEN YOU THINK NOBODY CAN HEAR?
  4. IS ANYONE ELSE IN YOUR FAMILY A BLOGGER OR VLOGGER?
  5. DO YOU EVER FEEL DISCOURAGED ABOUT BLOGGING?  WHAT DO YOU DO TO KEEP YOURSELF MOTIVATED?
  6. WHAT IS YOUR MOST EMBARRASSING MEMORY OR EXPERIENCE?
  7. DO YOU HAVE A FAVOURITE TV DETECTIVE?
  8. IF YOU COULD HAVE ONE PERFECT DAY – WHERE WOULD IT BE? WHO WOULD YOU BE WITH? WHAT WOULD YOU EAT?  (That is several questions rolled into one – but we would love to know what would make a perfect day to you.

My Eight Nominees

Finding French Charming Has Nominated Me For The Liebster Award

I have noticed that there have been a lot of posts about the holidays recently and it is clear that holidays can be a very different experience for many. I personally don’t observe any traditions that have origins I don’t feel comfortable with. But I love time off work with my family and great friends. It’s nice to have some naughty food during these cold dark gloomy days.

It was interesting to see the questions from Finding French Charming as some of them are about the holidays, and as I looked through them I thought about all the posts I have seen about the holidays – for some bloggers, they seem to be having a whale of a time. But for others this seems to be a time that can provoke stress, loneliness, heart-breaking memories and a forlorn longing for something that every human being should have – genuine warmth, security, love.

The world just ain’t right! Never mind politics and economics…there are too many people out there without what makes humans thrive regardless of your economic circumstances.

Take a look at the fabulous Liebster Award post from Finding French Charming. I think a lot of you are familiar with her posts, but if not…please go back and look at her posts from earlier this year – they are so much fun to read through.

Liebster Award

RULES

  • Acknowledge the blogger that gave it to you and display the award
  • Answer 8 questions that the blogger gave you
  • Give 8 random thoughts about yourself
  • Nominate 8 other bloggers and notify them of their nomination
  • Ask your nominees 8 questions

The Questions From Finding French Charming:

Is there a famous person you strive to be like? (Style, accomplishments, attitude)

celebrityThe thing about most famous people is, I only see a glimpse of them, often a carefully coordinated glimpse that is controlled by their media agent. They have very little interest to me. I did not have a television for over ten years, so I am not very up to date with who is famous anymore, there seem to be a lot of “celebrities” whom I have never heard of or seen before.

I only strive to be like the people I know well, mainly my parents and some of my wonderful friends who have spent years or even decades working as volunteers. I have a few famous friends. I strive to imitate wonderful qualities like kindness and compassion in any of my friends whether they are famous or not. Fame is a very fickle thing indeed.

I truly admire my ex-flatmate Jack, because he gave up so many opportunities to enrich himself, when he became a full-time volunteer. Instead he has used his fame to be a positive influence on young people. I applaud that.

What is the craziest color your hair has been?  Was it an accident or on purpose?  How old were/are you? (add a pic if you have one!)

me at 9I have never dyed my hair.

This was my hair colour at around nine years of age I think. And this is my hair colour today. I do notice the odd silvery hair though. My Dad who is seventy has the same colour hair and he has a few whisps of silver. I am wondering if I will be the same.

Mandy my sister has been dying her hair since she was eleven. She loves to change her image regularly. I always say to her “Go light in the summer and go dark in the winter!”

My mum once left us with Dad one afternoon so she could go to a hair appointment. She came home with an unusual shade of red and a perm. We were all a bit shocked to be honest. Mum now has beautiful long golden white hair. It’s not white, and there is no hint of grey or silver and it’s not blonde, it’s almost platinum blonde I guess. Anyway whatever it is, her hair is in gorgeous condition. She normally wears it up when she goes out. But around the house she might have it down and it is very beautiful.

As the holidays are around the corner, do you have a favourite decoration?  Where did you get it and how long have you had it?

Me – no, not at all.

carriage lightBut I remember when we used to visit my Grandparents during December, they always had quite a large tree in the corner of the front siting room, near some French doors that led through to the larger living room at the rear of their house. I was quite taken by the Cinderella carriage lights they always had in gold, blue, green and pink. They were kind of pretty.

Who has been the biggest influence in your life in regards to how you celebrate the holidays?

Well, for years I have worked during the holidays because I have been working in healthcare and that requires staff 24-7-12-365! My oldest sister is a nurse. My brother is a Doctor. Mumma was a nurse and always worked on the bank holidays.  She could get either double or triple pay on bank holidays. Dad was a window-cleaner, and so it made sense for him to take time off during the winter holidays when the weather was rotten.

Because Mumma was out all day, Dad allowed us to have one duvet day. We were allowed to stay in our pyjamas and watch cartoons, but only for one day. He did not want us wasting the whole two weeks school holidays by being lazy. He made sure we were active and had fresh air. We have always been summer kids. When the weather was bad and we were stuck indoors we would all suffer from cabin-fever. We could read and play games, but we longed for outside and Dad would have to make sure we were all wrapped up. He then took us out on brisk walks around town, so he could keep us active and make sure we were tired out and would sleep properly. He used to get us running and climbing and having races with him. Dad could make anything fun.

There were a lot of older ones we knew who might be alone over the holidays, so Dad would often take us to visit some of those he knew would be alone. At the time, I don’t think we understood how much it meant to some of them to have my Dad turn up with his young crew who invaded their home for a couple of hours before he took us elsewhere. We thought it was great because we were fed cake and pie and chocolates everywhere we went. So we were well up for it. We chatted away to our hosts who apparently would have spent the holidays on their own. Dad couldn’t bear to think of older ones without any family being all alone. It was a mutually beneficial arrangement – I think. I don’t know if it was odd. But I do know we were a very popular little crew.

On days when we were all together we would visit my grandparents. They would give us a parcel each with one “big” present and a host of other things like a new year diary, embroidered handkerchiefs, a jumper, gloves, sweeties etc. Other days we would meet up with lots of other friends and their families and go for a walk, sometimes there were about a hundred of us. Either in the Lake District or North Wales. Or a couple of times we went somewhere like Chester Zoo. Then we would split up into smaller parties and go to someone’s house for food and games.

When I used to go back to school the other children would boast about all the expensive gifts they had received. I didn’t like that. But I do know, we didn’t miss out on anything important. As I grew older, and especially once I left school and started working, I noticed people would come back to work after the holidays grumbling about their family and were clearly stressed from over-spending and over-indulging.

What was the worst holiday disaster you’ve experienced?

There are a lot more heart attacks, mental health break downs, suicides during December and January, so of course that is one of the reasons why working in healthcare, this time of year is dreaded. I have often worked long hours and come home completely wiped out.

The worst was one year when I was working extra shifts for a local nursing home and we had half of the normal staff levels because of illness. There should have been two nurses throughout the day, with ten carers during the early shift and six during the late. But there were six of us during the early shift and only three of us during the late shift. Then we had a call to say there had been an outbreak of the Norovirus at a local hospital and they were bringing eight patients from that ward to our facility. I was utterly exhausted after those few days.

This year I will be off from December 24th right through to the following Monday. I am so so thrilled to have almost a whole week off. I think it might be the first time for over fifteen years. I will be in Wales, but will be seeing all of my direct family and a lot of the in-laws.

Are you a “Black Friday” shopper?  If yes, explain your strategy.  If no, how do you do your holiday shopping?

I have only heard of Black Friday within the last couple of years. But so far I have not had chance to make the most of the sales. I think we have just had Black Friday – I worked for fifteen hours that day and was not involved with any shopping – except that I did pick up some vegan fish-style burgers. But they were not in any kind of sale. I just really wanted to try them because I am curious as to what they might taste like. I have not had fish since before I was six years old, and the only fish I actually remember is fish-fingers.

What place of business do you frequent so often they know you by name? (besides where you or a spouse works)

The post office staff are so lovely. They all know my name and where I work now and where I used to work. I have noticed they always look a bit fed up with some of the customers who take out their frustration about the long queues and not being able to obtain the service they had queued for. So when I appear, their little faces light up. I always try to cheer them up with a little friendly chat and a joke (I don’t know many jokes). It seems like a nice little token towards someone who has spent the morning having customers shout and grumble at them.

What kind thing has a stranger done for you recently?  Did you pay it forward?

There was a man at a railway station I went through who was randomly giving out beautiful roses to people passing. One rose each. I thought he was selling them at first, but he said to me, he just wanted to do something kind. People do look very stressed at this time of year. Maybe he wanted to try to brighten someone’s day?

Have I paid it forward? Well, I have not been giving out roses to strangers outside railway stations myself no.

But I did give those chocolates I was given by a young man who should not be giving me chocolates to my workmates. They enjoyed them very much as far as I could see when I was back at work.

Eight Random Facts About Me:

  • Before my head injuries I hated hats – the only hats I was willing to wear were hard-hats on construction sites. But now I have twelve wide-brimmed hats, a couple of bucket hats and eight woolly hats. I feel a lot more confident when I wear a hat.
  • I have been too scared to drive since I had my head injuries, although before then I drove up and down the country with confidence.
  • pestoI love my food processor. I love making my own hummus, pesto, coleslaw and how much easier it is to make parts of other dishes – for example a biscuit base for cheesecake. It’s really hard to imagine not having a food processor now.
  • I have taught several adults how to swim, including three women from Pakistan who had never been a swimming pool before they came to England.
  • I live in an area where there is a lot of limescale from the water. To combat it, every time I have a shower, I spray a solution made of water and a little white vinegar all over the glass and then squeegee the glass and the tiles and wipe everything down with a terry-towel. My walk-in shower always looks perfect.lawn mower
  • I used to drive a ride-on lawn mower to keep the lawns of a rather grand estate where I lived immaculate.
  • I love having cookery lessons from friends from other countries. I have had cookery lessons with friends from Ethiopia, Germany, Ghana, India, Iran, Italy, Nepal, Nigeria, Pakistan, Spain and Thailand – and I am always eager to learn more.
  • After Goldfinch has left, I am thinking of moving closer to my family, because I am giving up hope that I will ever make it back to my home and career on the other side of London. I am having too many problems since my head injuries. It is making me despondent. I don’t think they can accept me as a full-time volunteer. If I can’t be here in that capacity, I think I would rather be where my family are – which is difficult because they are spread all over the country. But I like idea of spending some time in North Wales for a start. I would love to see my nineteen month old niece growing up.

Eight Question For My Eight Nominees:

  • How long have you been blogging for and why did you start blogging?
  • What kind of food do you enjoy during the colder winter months?
  • Do you wear hats and if so – what kind of hats?
  • Have you ever had any unusual jobs or ways to earn money?
  • What do you do to cheer yourself up when your heart has been broken by someone?
  • Have you ever worked on a construction site?
  • Have you ever had an overnight stay in hospital? How was your experience?
  • Have you always lived in the same area? Or have you relocated within the same country or abroad?

My Eight Nominees:

 

 

 

Melanie B Cee Has Nominated Me For The Liebster Award

Melanie B Cee the creator of sparksfromacombustiblemind has kindly nominated me for the Liebster Award as you can see in her post below:

https://sparksfromacombustiblemind.com/2018/11/05/liebster-award/

Rules

  • Acknowledge the blogger that gave it to you and display the award – Thank you Melanie!
  • Answer 8 questions that the blogger gave you
  • Give 8 random thoughts about yourself
  • Nominate 8 other bloggers and notify them of their nomination
  • Ask your nominees 8 questions

Melanie’s Questions

Do you like bubble gum?  As a flavor or as a sticky treat?  Or is it an annoyance?

I used to love bubble gum. When I was at primary school, it was so popular. We used to trade different bubble gum flavours. We used to blow huge bubbles with it. It was fun!

I have not had any bubble gum for years. But, I would hope there are some out there still finding it as much fun as we did as kiddos. The only thing I would be annoyed by is if someone does not dispose of it properly – ooooo-ey gross!

And I do find it odd when people are chewing gum during a professional or important event. I have seen a bride and groom chewing gum all the way through their wedding service.

I even saw a friend of mine performing on stage in front of an audience of thousands and she was chewing gum throughout her time up there on stage. It didn’t look great. She was told by the director to lose the gum if she expected to be on stage again.

What’s the best advice you ever got?

After I was the victim of a crime, I had some pretty bad injuries to recover from physically and emotionally. Several people helped me realize there was no rush to get better. Healing takes time. They said to me:

ONE DAY AT A TIME

Dress up or casual if invited out?

Dress up! I can be casual at home, on my own, any time I want to. I  wear casual clothes when I am cleaning or gardening. Going out is always a chance to dress up.

I love donning a posh frock. I am like a magpie to beautiful dresses and whenever I see one in a charity shop I tend to grab it for my collection.

Of course I want to take every chance to wear them.

What’s a time when you really stretched yourself; either physically or mentally?

There were eight months which were probably the most intense of all my working life. October 2012 – May 2013. They were tough! I was working in an infirmary caring for patients with terminal illness. I helped to train a team of volunteers.

We were caring for Abigail, a wonderful woman who was almost one hundred years of age and had been affected by Alzheimer’s disease for the previous ten years. She was a very special lady. The whole care team were absolutely devoted to her, but especially the most experienced of our carers (Penny – who everyone called “Matron”) I must write about both Abigail and Penny.

In October 2012 Abigail started to deteriorate rapidly. The number of patients had doubled in the past few weeks and I was having to train new carers to use equipment they had never seen before. We needed everyone to do extra hours to help with the round the clock support needed. I was with Abigail when she took her last breath.

Then my good friend Catrina came back from Africa with some puzzling symptoms. Less than two months later I was with Catrina as she was taking her last breaths.

The morning she died, my manager had received a call to say that not one of the eight male carers I had trained for the past three months was available to assist Arnold, a ninety year old gentleman with Parkinsons. So I had to go straight from Katrina to assist Arnold.

Penny, our most experienced carer had come down with a cold just after Abigail’s death, so she had not been involved with Catrina’s care. We were all concentrating on Catrina so much, none of us had stopped to think about how many days of work Penny had missed. Penny had been sending us text messages to encourage us, because she knew we were in a very demanding situation and that emotions were wrought.

When we lost Catrina, we finally realized something was seriously wrong with Penny. On the day of Catrina’s funeral, our manager had to carry Penny down the stairs from her bedroom and took her in his car straight to hospital. Three months later, we were all around Penny’s hospital bed while she was taking her last breaths. After two hours sleep I had to be be at work ready to help our other patients in the infirmary.

Aaaaaaaah! Those were some of the most demanding and heart-breaking months of my working life. I did feel I was stretched almost to breaking point. Just after we lost Penny, Jack moved into the flat I was living in and started to play strange games with me. Maybe if I had not been so exhausted emotionally I would have been able to cope better with Jack.

Do you have any trophies?

I won trophies as a child. I don’t have them with me. Swimming galas and maths contests mainly.

My sisters and I swam competitively for our local club and for the school of course. Most of the trophies would be for the club or school, they were not for us as individuals, even though we won our races. But I did have one special one – from the club, just because of the amount of swimming accomplishments that had stacked up.

How would you decorate your dream home?

I don’t really have a dream home…not yet anyway. Whilst I am on my own having somewhere small, easy to clean and safe!

If I could choose my own colours it would be blue and teal features on a background of one of the countless shades of magnolia. I will admit though – I am not very good at matching things. Our Mandy is great, she has wonderful taste in decor. Her whole house looks like a show-house.

I would need help from someone with a better sense of interior design than me to make sure I don’t overdo it with teal.

What are three things you’d take with you if you could only take three?

Take? Where am I going?

If it is an emergency, my grab-bag would be one of them because it is full of really useful things that would help in any emergency.

robe and slippersIf it’s an ordinary day, my hand-bag because it is full of really useful things that would help you to survive an “ordinary” in London. Everything from purse, keys, phone, umbrella, lip gloss, perfume atomiser, hair clip, nail file, pocket tissues..

If it’s to hospital, I would take the over-night bag I have packed with clean underwear, dressing gowns, slippers, a set of clothes for when I leave hospital, toiletries, a couple of books and a pen and notebook. I have been through the situation too many times of having to send friends or family to my home to gather some personal things for me, and frankly, it’s annoying having other people root through your underwear drawer!

Is the printed word really dead?

Does the printed word only include paper and exclude electronic word? This is rather interesting to me…having had a little involvement with printing in the past (a very little involvement).

I prefer a paper book in my hands rather than an electronic device, but there is no point being parochial about this. Or would you rather we were still reading from clay tablets or perhaps scrolls made of animal hides or papyrus?

For centuries people used scrolls…and then some clever chap had a brain wave and the codex was born. We are still using the codex two thousand years later!

For many centuries texts were painstakingly hand-written. The role of copyists was incredibly important to ensure that important information was copied meticulously. Copyists would count the letters to identify any errors. Rather humbling when I think about how many typos I find in my own writing. Others would detail in margins, where they felt copying errors may have occurred. It is an absolute miracle and a testament to the faithfulness of copyists, that in comparing hand-written texts copied over many centuries, there are so few differences.

But then boom – came the printing press and the modern world has never been the same. Information was able to spread faster than ever before!

The developments in printing presses are astonishing! I have toured a Man Roland Lithoman printing press several times and observed it in action, printing over one hundred thousand full colour magazines per hour! I have lots of friends who work in printing, and I have been able to tour various printing operations.

But the cost of paper and the concern for the environment has effected the printing industry. In addition…boom – came the internet!

During the past twenty years or so the development of electronic media has progressed phenomenally. Information can be broadcast via electronic means to a staggeringly huge audience in a thousand languages. There are some organisations who have embraced developments in technology and are publishing material in hundreds of languages simultaneously.

Now is not the time to be parochial! People in all parts of the earth have access to information as never before!

Eight Random Facts About Moi:

  • I know all the ins and outs of Twickenham Rugby Stadium like the back of my hand, having worked at various functions over the years
  • I know all the ins and outs of the Manchester Arena like the back of my hand, after working there as a steward and first-aider at events over the years
  • vegetarianI have been a vegetarian since I was six years of age
  • I have fallen off three buses in my life, once off the school bus when I was fourteen, ended up with a back-slab on for weeks and had to use crutches. And twice on packed London buses.
  • I have performed in front of an audience of 15,000 people
  • I used to open Robbie Williams’ fan mail
  • My primary school was burnt down to the ground when I was seven years of age
  • I once had to drive two of the most important men in the country across London in an emergency…I was so nervous I kept on crunching the gears because my clutch control was horrendous. They became quite concerned about my driving. I had to take deep breaths to calm myself down.

Eight Questions For My Nominees:

  1. HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN BLOGGING FOR?
  2. FANCY DRESS PARTIES – WHAT HAVE YOU DRESSED UP AS?
  3. WHICH SONGS WOULD YOU SING IN THE SHOWER WHEN YOU THINK NOBODY CAN HEAR?
  4. IS ANYONE ELSE IN YOUR FAMILY A BLOGGER OR VLOGGER?
  5. WHO OR WHAT INSPIRED YOU TO START A BLOG SITE?
  6. WHAT IS YOUR MOST EMBARRASSING MEMORY OR EXPERIENCE?
  7. DO YOUR FRIENDS KNOW ABOUT YOUR BLOG SITE?
  8. IF YOU COULD HAVE ONE PERFECT DAY – WHERE WOULD IT BE? WHO WOULD YOU BE WITH? WHAT WOULD YOU EAT?  (That is several questions rolled into one – but we would love to know what would make a perfect day to you.

My Eight Nominees

So now I am allowed no nominate eight other bloggers for the Liebster Award:

Anexpatshome Has Renominated Me For Another Liebster – I Am Not Sure If This Is Allowed! (But It Is Fun)

I was recently nominated for a Liebster Award…I nominated eleven bloggers including anexpatshome.liebster-award-button

You can read the Liebster Award post anexpatshome published.  I loved reading the answers to the questions I had given my nominees.

https://anexpatshome.wordpress.com/2018/06/04/nominated-by-crushedcaramel-for-liebster-cool/

I have been renominated for another Liebster Award.  I am not sure if this is allowed according to the rules…however, it is all fun.  So, I am going to gratefully accept the second nomination.

I have copied and pasted the rules outlined in other Liebster Award posts:

  1. Acknowledge the blog who nominated you.
  • Answer the 11 questions your nominator asked.
  • Nominate 11 other bloggers.
  • Ask them 11 questions.
  • Let them know you have nominated them

So these are the questions anexpatshome raised to all nominees and my answers:

1. If you could invite any 5 people or things to a dinner, who would that be ? And Why (If you feel like answering)

Oooooh five people or things to a dinner.  That is difficult….because ideally I would want six places for my parents and my younger sisters and their husbands…we are all very close and they make the best company over dinner.  Oh and we would also be needing a high-chair for my niece.

muppetsIf I am restricted to five…well I  was showing Goldfinch a commercial advert for Warburton’s Giant Crumpets the other day…it has the Muppets doing a musical extravaganza.  So so funny.  Can you imagine having dinner with Kermit, Miss Piggy, Gonzo, Fozzie Bear and Animal?!!!  That would be the experience of a life-time!  I can imagine the conversation being extremely memorable!  Although I really would not want to sit next to Animal.

2. One noble deed that you have done ?

Don’t get me started!  Opportunities have thrown themselves at me over the years due to being involved in voluntary projects.  Noble is normal for many volunteers.  But still some days stand out in my mind…they were just a bit more challenging than a typical day.

I had trained ten young men to be able to work as care assistants working with an older gentleman who had Parkinson’s and associated dementia.  He and his wife really wanted a male care assistant.  So for six months I provided training and prepared all the paper-work required for his care plan.  We had handed his care onto the team of male care assistants who would be co-ordinated by a supervisor.

I was caring for a friend of mine I had known for twenty years.  She had cancer pretty much everywhere you can imagine. I stayed with her the night before she died and then passed over to a couple of great care assistants who would be there during daylight hours with her.  I came back that night. She took her last breaths while we were with her.  After the doctor came to issue the death certificate, we washed her and combed her hair and put on the dress she had asked us to.  Her husband was distraught, so we did our best to support him.  It had happened very quickly.  She had been working full-time six weeks before, and the diagnosis has been a big shock.

Then I received a phone-call to say that not one of the ten young men I had trained had come into work. Either they were ill, or their supervisor could not even get hold of them.  They were not answering their phones.  So after being awake all night and seeing my friend die and trying to be strong for her devastated husband…I had to leave, go and wash thoroughly and go straight to the home of the older gentleman, who was still sitting in his pyjamas when I arrived with his frail wife now very distressed as to why nobody had turned up.

Aaaah sigh!  Lots of people do this as part of their job daily.  I was not paid a penny though.

3. Which crazy thing that you want to do but you know you can never do it ?

Crazy?…define “crazy”.

As a teenager I went through a year or two of making my parents nervous.  Especially when I had a job working for a record company.  I was mixing with some people who were rather bad for me.  But the desire to do anything too crazy left me pretty quickly.  From the moment I stepped onto a construction site and worked as a volunteer for the first time, all my thoughts were being useful.bananaepisode

I have had fun, I am a shameless karaoke singer, and that has taken me to some interesting places.  Wooooh!  That will be a future post.

I have loved singing and pretending to be a pop star from an early age…this is me as a little one with my rock-star sunglasses and leather jacket!  Any visitors to our family home would receive a performance from me singing at the top of my voice and prancing around the living room.  It is something I have not ever really grown out of.  The word KARAOKE is something that captures my attention and fills me with enthusiasm and I have ended up singing in front of hundreds of holiday makers who were cheering me on and calling for more.  (Or them cheering me on may have been in my head…!)

Don’t misunderstand…it’s not that I can actually sing…I just love the fun of it…having no nerves is a great asset when it comes to karaoke…you don’t actually need to be able to hold a tune.  Just go for it!  Shamelessly!  People love a karaoke singer who cannot really sing – you know like Cameron Diaz in that film…I forget which film it was…but you get the idea.

Other than that…something crazy that I can never actually do?  I could say “fly”…so many of us would love to have the sensation of flying on our own through the clouds.  Or wouldn’t it be great to fly just to be able to beat traffic!

4. Your Favourite top 3 movies ?

   finding nemo          la vita e bella         the sound of music

If you came round to our home when my family and I were watching “The Sound Of Music”…you might end up quite traumatised.  We all know the lyrics to the entire score off by heart and would be belting the songs out at the top of our voices!

I make no apologies for my choice of movies!

5. If you could have your own start-up business, what would that be ?

If I was going to be starting up a business I would have to have a partner.  You see I have no extraordinary talents myself, except for admin skills and accounts skills.  I am  bit of a “jack of all trades, master at none”…so I would need someone who had a real talent, or skill, or USP.

Meanwhile I would look after all of the paper work and everything office related.  I am hyper-organized.  If anything stays still for more than two minutes, I either file it, or just put it into numerical or alphabetical order.  I don’t procrastinate, I plough through heaps of administrative tasks.

But on my own, there is nothing I could make a business out of.  Perhaps cleaning.

6. Music Lover or Food Lover or both?

Both I guess.  Both can be very wonderful aspects of life.  But both I limit my indulgence with.

Years ago, when I worked for the record company, I became a bit obsessive about music – it was Britpop back then.  I bought many albums, I saw many bands play live, I listened to their music for hour upon hour…even at night, I would go to sleep with headphones on listening to music.

Not healthy!  Now my music tastes are varied, and I still enjoy music.  But I would never let my enjoyment of music take over like it did when I was a teenager.  I don’t really become a fan of one artist or band.  I can like their song, but often the moment they open their mouths at an interview, I feel disappointed in them.

Food – yes I love it without doubt, but again…I am trying to keep my love of food at bay.  I am trying to eat smaller portions and go for healthier options.  But I enjoy food very much…I love trying new dishes.  I love having dinner with friends and family.  For some reason I don’t feel as close to the friends I have not eaten with.  It’s strange isn’t it.  For some reason, eating together forges bonds.

But I keep telling myself: “Once On The Lips…Forever On The Hips”!

7. One habit that you would love to get rid of ? OR One habit that you would like to develop ?

swimmingHmm…my sisters and I were competitive swimmers for years.  I love swimming.  Being in a pool feels wonderful to me…peace, calm, happy place…and then as I swim up and down for an hour or two I feel adrenaline and power rushing through my limbs.  I am finding it hard with my current schedule to go regularly though.  The habit I would like to make a regular feature of my life is to go swimming at least once a week.

8. What would you prefer? Going back in time and changing something or going ahead in time and exploring your future?

In my case, definitely going back in time.  I would never have gone to the park on my own that night.

But I think I would have gone back further in time.  I still remember the first time I really came into contact with the man who would later become my flat-mate, the man who crushed Caramel.  He joined me and a group of friends for breakfast.  He sat opposite me.  If I could go back to that moment, I think I would have swapped seats with someone, or just walked out so that he did not have chance to dwell on me.

9. Dream Vacation ?

Couple Walking on Beach at SunsetAfter we have finished building a boat, Goldfinch and I set sail away into the deep blue.  We would travel to every port and harbour and we would meet the people who lived locally, taste their cuisine, dance to their music, and explore their culture.  We would visit every land on the planet.  There would also be plenty of swimming and diving when we were out a sea.  We would walk hand in hand along many beaches watching the magnificent sunsets.  There would be no such thing as passports and visas.  Just love!!!

10. Favourite songs (Top 3) ?

Oh that is hard!!!  I am loving classical music at the moment.  I don’t think I could ever tire of some of the pieces on my classical playlist…I like lots of different styles of music, but you cannot really compare.  So I will tell you my three favourite classical arias followed by my three favourite songs from more popular genres:

 

 

The three classical arias above are beyond comparison with my other favourites.  They need no introduction or explanation…they are utterly gorgeous!  I am ready to hold my hands up and admit, there is music…and then there is MUSIC.  I love variety though.  If I listened to classical music all day it would drive me crazy!

So these are my three favourite songs from more popular music genres:

  • Sleeper – What Do I Do Now? (This is my go-to song for rainy days…when I have a little heart-break and I need a bit of light rock music to diffuse my distress.)  If rock is not your thing, don’t worry, but the lyrics of this song still make me smile (“Tore up all your photos, didn’t feel too clever, spent the whole of Sunday, sticking you together” – favourite lines!)

The quality of this video is really poor…I found a better one, but it would not let me copy the link.  There must be better quality videos out there?

 

  • The Righteous Brothers – Unchained Melody (You might be rolling your eyes at me!  The thing is, this song is one of the first songs I remember hearing as a child and being really moved by…I fell deeply in love with the words and the music.  It has been over-played, and even I have to make sure I only listen to it every now and then.  But it still moves me to tears!  I can’t post a version of The Righteous Brothers singing it…even though I love every single second of their recording.  We will have to be content with the Sam Cooke.
  • Cyndi Lauper – I Drove All Night (This brings back many memories of working with an amazing group of house-keepers.  Sometimes there would be a little singing and dancing during a lunch-break.  I remember this song because all the girls loved it and we have all been singing together with fake microphones.  So much fun!  Happy memories!!!)

DON’T WORRY – I AM NOT PLANNING ON STARTING A MUSIC BLOG – I KNOW HOW MUCH MUSIC TASTES DIFFER…I MAY HAVE SERIOUSLY LOST YOUR RESPECT AT THIS POINT…IF YOU WERE NOT ALREADY HORRIFIED BY MY TASTE IN MOVIES!

11. Have you ever been on a vacation, alone ?

Once I turned up at a campsite with my huge back pack and tent.  I had caught the train because there is a direct train all the way from London to the area we were visiting.  The friends who were supposed to be meeting me there for a weekend of camping and BBQ were nowhere to be seen.  I didn’t have any mobile phone signal.  I pitched up my tent and just hoped they would arrive.  It was such a weird feeling, and I was a bit frightened.  Anyway I just sunbathed and read a book and slept and then showered and sunbathed some more and read some more and then went home.

As soon as I was within signal range, I saw all these text messages arrive in my inbox.  They had been stuck in a nightmare traffic-jam on the motorway.  They were less than twenty minutes from home when the traffic came to a standstill, because of a massive pile-up ahead. They were stuck there for eight hours!  They had been trying to contact me but without signal, I was completely unaware of what was going on.  Once they were finally able to exit the motorway, they decided it was best to go home rather than drive for several hours and arrive at the campsite in the middle of the night.  They made the right call, to be sure.  But it was too weird camping all on my own wondering what had happened to my friends.

Most of my vacations have been with a gang of friends.  The last family holiday we had, when I was 17, there were more than forty of us who went together.

Since then I tend to go on holiday with a group of around ten friends.  I have had some very interesting holidays, I will relate some of the opportunities we have had…look out for my post about our holiday in Sweden.  I had more fun there than anywhere else I have visited.

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Which brings me to my eleven nominees.  I had previously nominated eleven bloggers I had recently discovered.  I now feel that if I have been nominated twice within a couple of days, I am not worried about nominating bloggers who are clearly more experienced than I and may have been nominated for a Liebster on previous occasions:

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My nominees are:

  • MatthewJRichardson   –   https://matthewjrichardson.com/
  • Rosie  –   http://journeyofalifestyle.com/
  • My Dusty Flip-Flops   –   https://mydustyflipflops.wordpress.com/
  • My Sheer Ladybird   –   https://sheerladybird.wordpress.com/
  • Ahotcuppalife   –   https://ahotcuppalife.wordpress.com/
  • L.  Stevens   –   https://everydaystrangeblog.wordpress.com/
  • Nina BW   –   https://gone-roaming.com/
  • Stephen T  –   https://revelationsend.wordpress.com/   (who I would buy a Caramac for if I could!)
  • Daniel Thomas   –   https://thesanguinelife.com/
  • Ruby  –  https://historianruby.com/

And last, but not least, the very supportive and the phenomenally productive

My eleven nominees I have chosen because right from the start they were there in the Daily Post Provisions, Community Pool and First Fridays – supporting newbie bloggers and giving out great tips.  I was so very glad and grateful for the advice and encouragement I read in their comments (sometimes to other bloggers).  I think I would have given up long ago if it was not for that positive feedback and some help in how to make my site a bit more appealing.

They all have fantastic posts on their own sites, so you are very wise to take a look at what they have published.

My questions to my eleven nominees are:

  1. HOW MANY LANGUAGES DO YOU SPEAK? AND WHICH LANGUAGES?
  2. DO YOU HAVE A FAVOURITE TIPPLE?
  3. DID YOU HAVE A FAVOURITE SUBJECT AT SCHOOL (IF YOU ARE HISTORIANRUBY – DID YOU HAVE A SECOND FAVOURITE SUBJECT AT SCHOOL?)
  4. DO YOU EVER FEEL DISCOURAGED ABOUT BLOGGING?  WHAT DO YOU DO TO KEEP YOURSELF MOTIVATED?
  5. WHAT IS YOUR OWN FAVOURITE POST FROM YOUR SITE OR THE ONE YOU WOULD RECOMMEND READERS CHECK OUT FIRST?
  6. DO YOU ENJOY CAMPING OUT IN THE GREAT OUTDOORS?
  7. DO YOU ENJOY PLAYING OR WATCHING SPORT?  IF SO, WHICH SPORTS?
  8.  DO YOUR FRIENDS KNOW ABOUT YOUR BLOG SITE?
  9.  WHAT IS YOUR MOST EMBARRASSING MEMORY OR EXPERIENCE?
  10. WILL BLOGGING EVER BE THE SAME WITHOUT THE DAILY POST PROVISIONS?
  11. IF YOU COULD HAVE ONE PERFECT DAY – WHERE WOULD IT BE? WHO WOULD YOU BE WITH? WHAT WOULD YOU EAT?  (That is several questions rolled into one – but we would love to know what would make a perfect day to you.

 

If you have already been nominated for this award many times before or don’t have time to take it up…do not you worry.  This is my way of saying, I love your posts, and appreciate the support, advice and encouragement you have given to me.

Hope you have fun with this…I think that is what it is supposed to be…a bit of fun and encouragement to other bloggers.

I wish you all every success with your own blogging and I hope you can have fun with the Liebster Award.

 

 

Genetic Learning Has Nominated Me for A Liebster – Woooh Wooooh!

 

I have been nominated for the Liebster Award!

I have seen this on other blog sites and thought it was such an interesting way to get to know a little bit more about who is behind the posts you are enjoying.

Genetic Learning nominated me after his Leibster Award nomination, as you can read below.

https://geneticlearning.wordpress.com/2018/06/03/liebster-award/

I do not know Genetic Learning myself…I just know he is obviously a very clever boy! Who would like to be a vet, although I am not sure about his record with keeping fishies!!!

I have copied and pasted the rules outlined in his posts:

  1. Acknowledge the blog who nominated you.
  2. Answer the 11 questions your nominator asked.
  3. Nominate 11 other bloggers.
  4. Ask them 11 questions.
  5. Let them know you have nominated them

So these are the questions Genetic Learning raised to all of his nominees:

 

1. DO YOU HAVE ANY PETS, AND IF SO, WHAT ANIMAL ARE THEY?

Not currently (my tenancy agreement says “No pets allowed”).  However, I do look after the goldfishies in the house above when they go away on vacation.  I also clean out the Bio-orb fish tank once a month.  I have to admit I really struggle transferring the fish because of the way they squirm around…I am terrified they are going to jump right out of the net onto the floor.  I would freak out!

2. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE SNACK?

Ooooh!  I have to admit I am more a three square meals person.  I do not snack of my own iniative.  But when I have friends over to watch a movie or when I am with my friends I do indulge.  If I have one Pringle…I am tempted to finish the whole tube.

These are my own favourite snack finds of recent months.  I often buy them for my workmates.  They are seriously yummy.  Goldfinch loves them too!

ardensthomas fudges

Speaking of Goldfinch…he and I have a very serious point of disagreement.  Popcorn.  He insists it should be salty.  I say sweet.  Or even better, toffee popcorn.  It is the only subject of argument we have really not been able to resolve.  I did buy him a bag of salty popcorn a while back…only because I love him mind (despite his pitiful taste in popcorn).

Still, I do try to remember “Once On The Lips…Forever On The Hips!”

3. ABOUT HOW MANY POSTS HAVE YOU MADE?

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I know it is in excess of fifty posts…I had one of those nice little messages from WordPress alerting me to my fifty post marker.  I have deleted a couple though I was not happy with…but yeh, around the fifty mark.

4. ABOUT HOW LONG (since answering this question) HAVE YOU HAD YOUR BLOG?

My friend helped me set it up.  I think it was around the last couple of days of April 2018.  So probably coming up to five weeks old now.  Still kind of a baby…I know I need to make improvements to my site…I am just enjoying the story writing so much at the moment.  I have a basic format to the site that I am content with for the present moment.

5. HAVE YOU EVER HAD A STRAY CAT OR DOG JUST WALK UP TO YOUR HOUSE AND BEG FOR FOOD?

Oh yeah.  The town I grew up in was Cat City.  Cats would come and go all the time.  We always had cats of our own growing up  We wanted a dog, but my parents modestly admitted that caring for seven children and a dog was beyond them.  Cats seemed easier to look after (so independent).  We often had other cats roaming around our garden and trying to eat food we had left out for our own cat.  They would paw at the windows asking to come inside.  Of course as children, we wanted to let them in.  But Dadda said “No!”

6. HAVE YOU EVER KEPT A STRAY ANIMAL?

tabbyOur first cat Tamara, was abandoned by our next door neighbours when they moved house.  She was a tiny tabby cat.  My parents took her in.

I have a friend named Katie who has rescued and adopted many cats over the years.  We fondly call her Cat Woman.  We have been out with her on walks in the country several times, when she will detect an animal in distress and zooms in to rescue them.  We often have come home with an injured animal Katie intended to nurse to full health.

7. ON A SCALE OF 1-10, HOW MUCH DID YOU KNOW ABOUT GENETICS BEFORE READING MY BLOG?

You know your scale should be 0-10!!!  It would be a big fat 0 for me!

It is a subject that kind of fascinates me.  The thought of a written code with the properties and traits of living creatures and plants is incredible, truly awe-inspiring.

Although, this is not a subject I have ever researched, and I have to admit it does seem a bit mind-boggling!  I have enjoyed reading posts by Genetic Learning.  Nice and easy-ish to understand.  I like that the practical value is made clear.  There has been a lot of bad press about Genetically Modified Crops, so it is helpful to understand this subject a bit more.

8. HOW MANY BLOGS OR WEBSITES DO YOU HAVE?

Just this one.  I am entirely new to this blogging business.  I was encouraged by friends to put some of the stories (which were originally letters and e-mails to them) online…and this has motivated me to write new stories with the same feel of the ones I had already written over the years.

9. WHICH IS BETTER, SPICY FOOD OR SOUR FOOD?

Spicy!  I have many friends from India and Pakistan and from other countries famous for a spicy cuisine too.   We also have Punjabi in-laws.  I love curries with paneer or dahls with lentils.  English food is famously rather bland (although I sometimes am perfectly content with a roast dinner, or pie and mash, or vegetarian cottage pie).  I love variety.  I am fascinated by spice.

I have enjoyed many cookery lessons from my friends.  I am especially pleased with learning to make my own saag aloo – as I love spinach.

Some of my friends make their food so spicy hot I literally cannot breathe and have tears pouring down my face – I am more a mild to moderately spicy person I confess!thai

Goldfinch loves Thai food, so I am trying lots of Thai dishes recently – yum yum yum.

Oh and our fantastic trip to Texas, where we ate so much Tex-Mex food I thought I would never be able to walk again.  Spice with cheese – wowie!

10. WHAT’S YOUR FAVOURITE TV SHOW?

I am not a big TV watcher.  When I left home I did not have a TV for over ten years.  The accomdeath in paradisemodation I am in now has a TV.  I watched a BBC series called “Death In Paradise” – a detective show set in the Carribean.  I quite liked the feel of it.  When I had time I watched a few episodes of “Masterchef” and “The Great British Bake-Off”.

There is another show I have liked watching back episodes of recently, “Endeavour”.   My mum used to watch “Inspector MorseEndeavour” when we were children.  I was too young to follow it really, but I have fond memories of John Thaw.  I quite like that they have a series about the young Morse as he was beginning his career as a detective.

I am shocked though at how much complete garbage is on TV.  I don’t like soaps. Sometimes I will look through the guide of what is on each channel and I am aghast at how much utter nonsense seems to be available.

I do thblue planetink some of the documentaries the BBC have broadcast are simply incredible – “The Blue Planet” and so many others.  It just makes me yearn for the opportunity to explore this planet for myself though. It fills my head with dreams of knowing everything about this planet and it’s creatures inside out.  Seeing the phenomenal footage of creatures and their habitats that right now are far removed from our every day life…it does fill my heart with inspiration as well as serene calm and wonder knowing that I live on the most magnificent planet in the known universe.  It reassures me that the current way of life that most of us are tied to is not the intended purpose.  My conviction deepens that there is something vastly better ahead for this earth and for it’s inhabitants.

For the present, yes banning plastic straws and cotton buds might seem like a sensible idea, but I do believe a much greater change is needed.  That is like examining a dog that is infested with fleas and then picking off one or two fleas and celebrating.  Nope…this world is infested with harmful practices and habits that are effecting our own health and welfare and the stunning planet we live on and share with incredible creatures and plants.  Drastic changes need to occur.  We are not living in harmony with what it seems both we humans and the rest of life on this planet were designed for.

11. WHEN WILL YOUR NEXT ANNIVERSARY FOR YOUR WEBSITE BE?

Well…I tend to think of an anniversary as being annual event…so that is a very long way off!  The end of April 2019.  A lot will happen between now and then…

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Well, I hope I have answered the questions posed by Genetic Learning in a satisfactory way!

Now for my own nominees, eleven of the bloggers who I have been enjoying reading the posts of – I am going to nominate some blogs that I have only recently discovered:

If you have already been nominated for this award before or don’t have time to take it up…do not you worry.  This is my way of saying, I like your posts, and appreciate the support you have given to me.

Hope you have fun with this…I think that is what it is supposed to be…a bit of fun and encouragement to other bloggers.

And my questions to you all:

1. WHAT IS YOUR FAVOURITE TYPE OF CANDY OR SWEETIE?

2. WHO OR WHAT INSPIRED YOU TO START A BLOG SITE?

3. HAVE YOU EVER BEEN BULLIED?

4. WHICH IS THE BEST WAY TO TRAVEL – BOAT, PLANE, WHEELS?  WHERE WOULD YOU GO? (SORRY I KNOW THAT IS TWO QUESTIONS)

5. HOW DO YOU VIEW PEOPLE WHO CHEAT IN MONOPOLY?

6. DO YOU PREFER POEMS THAT RHYME? (IF THIS IS TOO CONTROVERSIAL A QUESTION – YOU COULD SHARE YOUR FAVOURITE HOUSE-KEEPING TIP INSTEAD)

8.  FANCY DRESS PARTIES – WHAT HAVE YOU DRESSED UP AS?

9. WHICH SONGS WOULD YOU SING IN THE SHOWER WHEN YOU THINK NOBODY CAN HEAR?

10. IS ANYONE ELSE IN YOUR FAMILY A BLOGGER OR VLOGGER?

11. DO YOU BELIEVE IN THE MAGIC BIN FAIRY (WHO COMES IN THE NIGHT AND EMPTIES YOUR BINS MIRACULOUSLY WHILE YOU ARE SLEEPING AND WIPES ALL THE SPILLS ON THE BIN AND ON THE WALLS AND FLOOR AROUND IT)???  OR ARE THERE MEMBERS OF YOUR HOUSE-HOLD WHO BELIEVE IN THE MAGIC BIN FAIRY?

Enjoy…look forward to seeing your responses!!