I felt sick recently on reading a medical report. I cannot go into detail for confidentiality reasons. But if you ring your GP, and there are no available appointments within the next two weeks – what would you do? What would you do? Would you snap in rage and claim that the receptionist will be blood-guilty should you die overnight? Or would you do the sensible thing and call NHS111?
Or if someone who worked for the same company as you, broke into your home overnight and stole your valuables – what would you do? What would you do? Would you claim that you felt an obligation to be loyalty to the company you worked for? Or would you do the sensible thing and report the incident to the police?
If the Mayor of your town, or a local MP, or a member of the royal company came to you and ordered you to go out shoplift on their behalf, or punch an innocent bystander, or give all of your savings to them – what would you do? What would you do? Would you claim that because those individuals were in authority, you had no choice but to obey them? Or would you stand up for what you know is right?
I am sick to death of people being foolish and then blaming it on others. Where in the world is their individual common sense, conscience, firmness of conviction, moral integrity, discernment? When you come across someone who has made a foolish decision (or their parent or legal guardian made a foolish decision) and blames others – insinuating they were helpless victims (removing all responsibility from themselves or their parents or legal guardians) and blaming others?
I came across an individual recently (bear in mind I work for charities that help abuse victims) who has already been shown to be unreliable as regards their testimony – who did not make any sense at all – but was happy to hurl accusations at anybody except herself and her own legal guardians. Spending time in this particular case, I felt sickened. I have never come across anyone so self-engrossed and warped in their reasoning and perception.
I cannot remember a time I have wished that someone would go and find another charity to ask help from. I was worried it was just me. But everyone else who spoke to her said the same thing. We are horrified at someone so lacking in genuineness painting themselves in angelic glow and seeking to represent us due to their social status.
The brutal truth is – there is a very startling difference between this person and every other service user we have ever dealt with. We think somebody ought to step in to legally address her deeply concerning behaviour. We have formally declined her offer of representing us – because somebody like her could potentially discredit other genuine victims.
I cannot remember coming across someone so shady. I am dreading another phone call from this person. If it were up to me, I would have washed my hands of them a long time ago.
As it is…this person does not know…and I have not told them yet…but I actually met them many years ago…and their parent and legal guardian. So…since the day they turned up on my casefiles…I have been tracing all past acquaintances and gathering the testimony of those who knew this person even better.
Time to arrange a session with this individual. There is a possibility that this person is facing the foolishness of their own errors and is in the middle of a mental health break down lashing out at anyone and everyone except for themselves, so I will go easy on them. But it is now incumbent upon me to sit down with them and present the testimony of others who have credibility and integrity – two qualities this person seems to be deficient in.