Skelly Has Nominated Me For The Vincent Ehindero Blogger Award

This chap Vincent Ehindero has made an appearance again – the mystery man who has inspired a blogging award. I have been nominated for THE VINCENT EHINDERO (#WOEIVE?/#WTHIVE?) AWARD by Skelly, the creator of fabricthatmademe, as you can see from her fabulous post below:

https://fabricthatmademe.wordpress.com/2020/11/02/the-vincent-ehindero-blog-award/

Rule, Pressure, Stamp, Wont, Come Here, Custom

  • Thank the person that nominated you with a link to their blog – THANKS SKELLY!
  • Make a post of the award
  • Post the rules
  • Answer the questions from the blogger who nominated you
  • Ask 5-10 questions of your choice
  • Nominate 10-30 other bloggers

Questions From Skelly

  • What is your favorite season?

SUMMER!

Do you need a reason?

  • Do you have a motto or Bible verse…maybe both, that you live by?

I guess “the golden rule” of Matthew 7:12 is one that I try to think of each and everyday.

But for me the Bible is a book that goes on abundantly giving and helps with every possible challenge in life. So at certain stages, particular verses have been especially helpful. I was reading a passage I found interesting. It starts with a prayer from the prophet Habakkuk asking his Creator to intervene. He is surrounded by violence, oppression and injustice and is deeply saddened. He feel helpless. He is troubled because he does not understand God’s timing or why such a painful situation is allowed.

But showing his trust and faith in his Creator Habakkuk pours out his heart in prayer and relies on Him for strength to endure. The book bearing his name ends with these words:

Although the fig tree may not blossom,

And there may be no fruit on the vines

Although the olive crop may fail,

And the fields may produce no food;

Although the flock may disappear from the pen,

And there may be no cattle in the stalls;  

(IN OTHER WORDS – IT CAN’T GET MUCH WORSE! THE WRITER IS DESCRIBING ECONOMIC CATASTROPHE!)

Yet, as for me, I will exult in our Creator;

I will be joyful in the God of my salvation.  

The Sovereign Lord God is my strength;

He will make my feet like those of a deer

And cause me to tread on high places.

IT WAS A PASSAGE THAT MADE ME IMAGINE WHAT IT WOULD BE LIKE IF THIS ECONOMIC SYSTEM CRUMBLED TO THE EXTENT THAT WE LOST EVERYTHING – OUR INCOME, OUR MEANS OF LIVING – WHAT IF WE WERE IN SUCH A DIRE ECONOMIC SITUATION THAT IT COULD NOT GET MUCH WORSE?

WHAT WOULD KEEP YOU GOING? WHAT WOULD GIVE YOU THE STRENGTH TO ENDURE HARDSHIP ON A SCALE YOU HAVE NEVER KNOWN? WOULD YOU UNDERSTAND THAT IT IS A TEMPORARY SITUATION AND THAT IT WAS FORECAST?

  • What is your biggest weakness? A battle or habit that has been a hiccup for you and how are you overcoming or coping with it?
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I think Jack has probably been my biggest weakness. No other person or challenge has had such a big effect on my life!!!

It has taken years for us to clear up the muddle that our life became. But it was worth the wait! I have learnt a lot about myself, life, love and I have in some ways become a stronger person. I have learnt to focus on making Jack my priority and not to let the opinions of others and their discouraging or hurtful remarks affect our relationship. I think Jack has learnt a lot too! I would like to think that he is not going to let strangers say anything they want on social media about his personal life. He might be thick-skinned and see it as part of the package of being a celebrity. But there are others in his life he needs to protect.

But the past is in the past. How am I coping now? Well I have agreed to marry him and live with him forever. Talk about taking on challenges directly!!!

  • How do you feel about social media these day? Is it a good thing or not? Do you use it?
Social Media, Social, Keyboard, Icon

I am absent/MIA from most social media. I was never a user of Facebook or Twitter. Sadly other users decided to post photos of me on their accounts and make preposterous claims about me.

I did use Instagram and WhatsApp. I have dormant accounts with those platforms. Now I only use WordPress because it feels more like a creative outlet with some friendly comments from other writers than it does any other form of social media.

I have to admit that I am incredibly mistrustful and wary of social media on many levels. I have been injured and scarred for life but the way people have used it. But somehow, I conquered. The people who hated the idea of Jack being in love with a caramel blonde lost. I am Jack’s and Jack…is mine!

  • Why do you choose to have a blog and what makes you keep going?
Woman, Girl, Female, Lying, Typing, Laptop, Netbook

I started my blog two and a half years ago. I started at the encouragement of one friend in particular, named Stuart. He enjoyed my writing and told me I should start a blog. I dismissed the idea for a long time. But eventually…

I kept going with it because it turned out to be fun. I found it very satisfying and in some ways cathartic to write personal accounts, a mix of light hearted and turbulent. There was a time when I was no longer able to be open about my emotions with my loved ones. They kept on telling me to let go of the past, to forget Jack and view him as unconnected with me. My blog became a place I could say what was in my heart without being judged or discouraged. Wow! Am I glad that I had that outlet? I would have gone crazy pretending that I had forgotten him.

Eventually I branched out into fiction. That was the foundation for writing and publishing three novels and a poetry book. Now I am in the habit of writing, and during 2020 it has been a great hobby while I cannot socialize with friends and engage in the activities I would normally be involved in.

It is such an honour and a pleasure to share the excitement of Jack being back in my my life with you!

Questions For My Nominees

  • Have you noticed more shops or restaurants closing down in your local area this year?
  • What winter warming dishes do you enjoy as comfort food?
  • Do you find there are some people who you cannot be yourself with?
  • When was the last time you saw snowfall? Did you have chance to play in the snow?
  • Who or what provided the most encouragement and support for you when you are facing challenges?

My Nominees

Sumedha

Sumedha – the wordy habitat

writerRSJ

writerRSJ – Rennie St. James

sunkissedlexblog

sunkissedlexblog – Sunkissed Lex

Annette Rey

Annette Rey – Writer’s Block No More

gladiporsche

gladiporsche – gladiquilts

Lee and Tracy

Lee and Tracy – Camper Chronicles

dprastka

dprastka – Mylife-and-Horsestories

Conor McCaffrey

Conor McCaffrey – Moo Kid

marthadilo3

marthadilo3 – Walking Chester

runforyourlife1516

runforyourlife1516 – Run for your Life.

11 thoughts on “Skelly Has Nominated Me For The Vincent Ehindero Blogger Award”

    1. So at the start of this year, we went to a couple of big events, and some photos were doing the rounds for a few days. Most of the comments did not refer to us as a couple. But there were a handful of unkind comments. Jack told me not to look. Jack wanted to post a picture of the two of us on his account but I was not keen. I felt that was inviting trouble. I remember being anxious, but around that time, people started talking about coronavirus. Then Jack went out to Africa and his Instagram account was full of photos and short videos of his trip. He always gets thousands of likes. Since he has been back in England, his Instagram account is hilarious – he has posted a mix of fun with his flatmates, plugs for charity projects, photos he has taken out and about and meals he has made for himself (before this year Jack hardly ever had to cook for himself, so his kitchen creations have been drawing a lot of comments).

      The two of us are not on his Instagram account at all. He rarely uses Facebook for personal things, it’s all charity stuff. When he tweets – it is always positive and professional stuff, never personal.

      Some of our friends have mentioned us on their social media pages, but they have all cooperated with request not to post any personal photos of us together.

      I think that in normal times, it would have been likely that we would have lost control of our personal photos, but with everything else happening in 2020, we have dogged a bullet and stayed under the radar.

      I would like that to stay the same as long as possible really. But at the same time, I am proud of Jack. I am proud to be with him. I don’t want to be secretive for any other reason than that there are some people out there who say very unkind things.

      I would hope that if people have learnt one lesson from 2020 it is the importance of kindness from others when you are going through a crisis.

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      1. Who would have thought that COVID could be well-timed, but that’s great that you’ve been able to have this private time. Hopefully by the time the world does settle down, the two of you will be so firmly established that people won’t pay too much attention.

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        1. I guess I would be grateful to be able to enjoy my life and enjoy sharing life with Jack without strangers leaving unkind comments – it is not a lot to ask for is it 🙂

          Facemasks really are great from the point of view that Jack can go places without being recognised. He does have lovely eyes though so he has been spotted a couple of times by women. They were very discreet when they greeted him though.

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  1. That was great! I have loved getting to know you better! You’re one of the good ones! Thanks for participating! Your blog is such a joy!
    Also I want to mention how much I love your answer to the second question. You gave me so much to think about. I feel very encouraged and hopeful! Full of faith and trust!

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    1. Thank you so much for the nomination and some great questions Skelly! ❤
      I want my blog to be a joyful place on the whole – but I still like to have the opportunity to write honestly if I am facing a challenge.

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