A friend takes photographs of you a social event. You friend later posts these photographs of you onto their social media accounts which have a large following. When you see the photos, it’s obvious the camera did not catch you at your best. In one photograph you look drunk, although you were not drinking alcohol that night. In every photograph you see, the camera has caught you at an very unfortunate angle. Frankly, you look terrible.


(Do you remember social events? Another question we might have to use our imagination for!)


What is THE CARAMEL CRUNCH? Well, it’s all about decisions. When it comes to THE CRUNCH what would you do?

One of the definitions of the word CRUNCH is:

a crucial point or situation

 – generally involving a decision with weighty consequences

  • Your response can be a quickie. Please feel free to send a comment to say what you would do, and if you have time or are inclined, please feel free to explain your decision.
  • If you would like to create a post with a longer explanation of your decision, please pingback to THE CARAMEL CRUNCH post. (Or copy and paste a link to your post in the comments section – please feel free.)

If you know anything about CRUSHED CARAMEL, you will probably realize I am a gentle soul, so my questions are not supposed to be terrifying! What I am hoping for really is to see a variety of responses. Afterall, it’s pretty obvious that WordPress bloggers are from a huge variety of backgrounds and cultures. It would be fascinating to learn more about how we as individuals make decisions.

Some of the questions I am going to ask are questions I have discussed with friends when we have been having coffee or dinner. I often find there is no clear right or wrong. It can be so much a matter of our individual experiences and outlook. I find it fascinating how very different some of us are when it comes to decision making.

We all have different outlooks, and may make different decisions. I am really looking forward to learning WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

One Way Street, Decisions, Opportunity



9 thoughts on “THE CARAMEL CRUNCH #21”

  1. For most of us (and friends have posted quite unflattering photos of me on social media) it is just a case of laughing it off. I’m guessing that you’re talking about Jack’s social media though and I’m not sure how I’d feel about those photos being judged by the media and possibly even publicised by them? If it’s just about the image I have of myself or want people to see of me then I guess maybe that’s vanity so I’d need to just get over myself. I know that you’ve had horrible experiences of this in the past though and that is unacceptable. I know I’m flip flopping here and not coming to a conclusion. I guess having thought about it for a few minutes I’m thinking that if your friend likes the way you look in the photo enough to put it on their social media and your friend loves you the way you are – does it actually matter what complete strangers think?


  2. It’s happened, though not to the extent yours has (smaller followings). Same deal… looked drunk when not. Weird angle making me look witchy or mad. I laughed it off and soon new pics appeared and mine moved far down the list. Years passed. No one cared. Remember, people are mostly only thinking about themselves not you!


  3. I stop them before they get posted. If someone’s snapping a photo, I ask to see it, and if I don’t like it, I request either it not be posted or to crop me out of it. So far it has worked. Now if they are being taken without my knowledge and I see them on someone’s page (hypothetically) I would request they be removed or edited, acknowledging once they hit the internet they become immortal by virtue of others copying and saving the images. It is why nobody should *ever* consent to having compromising photos taken of them.


  4. p.s. nowadays employers are looking for reasons to hold in abeyance to fire a person, especially if they are in any human service field. Some professionals I worked with on teams from the child welfare field were heavy duty party animals, which was, in part, due to the horrible things they knew about families and had to do to protect children. It’s ok to let off steam at the club, but damn, do not post those pictures on your facebook page! Police also routinely watch facebook for evidence of criminal activity. Sorry for going on and on, more than you asked for.


  5. well, this has definitely happened to me lol. and honestly, I just let it be. Yes, I hate how I look in that picture or video or whatever the case is, I know many people will see, many people may judge, but I just leave it be. I dont go back and look at the picture or video to dwell on how much I dislike it. I think I try and convince myself that.. we are our own worst critic and although I feel like I look hideous or embarrassed, other people might just see a person. I try not to dwell on the picture and place the memory of it In a far far place in the back of my mind.


  6. Ask them why they didn’t ask for my permission to post the photos. I don’t care that they are my friend, I would still want them to ask me if they can post photos of me on the Internet before they do – and allow me to see the photos before they post it.


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