WHEN IT COMES TO THE CRUNCH – WHAT WOULD YOU DO?
You have a close friend who you are very fond of who seems to be neglecting their own personal care. When you are with them you notice their dress and grooming is becoming increasingly unkempt and the odour they emit indicates that either they have a medical issue that needs attention or that they are not regular with cleansing their body.
WHAT WOULD YOU DO?
(Another question that may not be relevant at the moment as many are staying at home. But imagine the days when we were out mixing.)
What is THE CARAMEL CRUNCH? Well, it’s all about decisions. When it comes to THE CRUNCH what would you do?
One of the definitions of the word CRUNCH is:
a crucial point or situation
– generally involving a decision with weighty consequences
- Your response can be a quickie. Please feel free to send a comment to say what you would do, and if you have time or are inclined, please feel free to explain your decision.
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If you know anything about CRUSHED CARAMEL, you will probably realize I am a gentle soul, so my questions are not supposed to be terrifying! What I am hoping for really is to see a variety of responses. Afterall, it’s pretty obvious that WordPress bloggers are from a huge variety of backgrounds and cultures. It would be fascinating to learn more about how we as individuals make decisions.
Some of the questions I am going to ask are questions I have discussed with friends when we have been having coffee or dinner. I often find there is no clear right or wrong. It can be so much a matter of our individual experiences and outlook. I find it fascinating how very different some of us are when it comes to decision making.
We all have different outlooks, and may make different decisions. I am really looking forward to learning WHAT WOULD YOU DO?
Caramel 
If it’s getting to the point of bad odour, there’s probably something going on, and if they were a close friend, I’d definitely ask how they’ve been feeling.
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I know I would appreciate it if someone did that to me. A friend who cares and who discreetly enquires how I am could make all the difference.
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There is a clip in a movie called Waking Ned that always makes me laugh. The main female character is admired by a pig farmer. Everytime he tries to be romantic with her, she has to stop him because of the smell of the pigs. The scene I love is where he smells fresher than normal, as tries to kiss her he tells her that he has been using the fruity soaps she bought him. All is going well until she gets a wiff of the linger of pigs. The moment is over.
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My dad after he lost my mom. He quit showering, etc. We were with him daily but if you asked anything, he’d get mad. Tell us to just leave him alone. He did eventually pick himself up. Thankfully. He even remarried living 8 more happier years before he died.
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That's so moving to hear about your father.
I have seen people I love seem to stop caring about everything. Usually it has been temporary and gradually they regained a desire to do things again. It's hard when someone you love seems to have lost the will to try.
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With a close friend, I would ask, why? Sometimes they are worried about other things that the Keep their own needs at the back burner. It gives an opportunity to start a conversation. And may help.
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Very true. I guess gently enquiring, trying to show you care for them may help.
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That does work.
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With a close friend I’d find a gentle way to tell them. Maybe even offer to hang out or take them somewhere and just make sure they are okay. I’d even be willing to point out the things I’m noticing. My close friends and I have an understanding & know tough love is needed sometimes. We call them verbal 2×4’s.
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It is great to have friends who you know will be honest with you and never stop caring about you ❤
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I’d take my close friend aside and say, “Listen, I don’t know if you have a medical issue that needs attention or if you are just not practicing good personal hygiene, but you really smell bad. Once this whole social distancing situation ends, you need to get your act together if you want to spend time around other people, including me.”
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🙂 He is your close friend after all, I am sure he would appreciate you for being honest 🙂
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Or hate me for it. 🤷🏻♂️
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