Poop On The Patio

Castle Park, Hotel, Terrace, ParkNo photos of the actual poop – I promise!

I only mention it because there was a danger that as a member of the health service I was in danger of acquiring an inflated sense of importance. Suddenly the entire NHS have been exalted to superhero status (quite right too!), but to keep me grounded, I had a reminder this week that just because I am working ridiculously long days in extremely demanding conditions, there is no reason to feel all elevated.

Instead I was assigned the task of scraping the poop off the patio because my clients, who are now working from home, were sunbathing in their garden (which is an appropriate exercise when social distancing) and complained that all they could see was the poop on the patio. By the looks of things, it had been there for days. Poor clients had not thought of clearing it off the patio themselves.

iashSo I put on my PPE and went about the task.

Not only am I fighting on the front line of the invisible war…I am also an expert at property maintenance.

No task too great…no task too menial. Self-importance is soooooo overrated. Long ago, when I saw it in others who have had a big influence on me and been an inspiration, I realized that humility is one of the most beautiful qualities a human can display. I have fallen in love with people when I witnessed their humility. So…I am going to remind myself that poop on the patio is no big deal.

Not only will I carry on working hard at my day job…I’ll roll up my sleeves and take on any other work that needs to be done.





You are spending time with a close friend (or perhaps someone you are courting) at a public venue – perhaps at a shop or eating in a restaurant. Your friend is unhappy about the service, but when expressing their complaint, they are very rude to a member of staff.


I prepared this question before we all came under social distancing guidelines and restaurants and cafes. But think back to what we used to do with our free time…


What is THE CARAMEL CRUNCH? Well, it’s all about decisions. When it comes to THE CRUNCH what would you do?

One of the definitions of the word CRUNCH is:

a crucial point or situation

 – generally involving a decision with weighty consequences

  • Your response can be a quickie. Please feel free to send a comment to say what you would do, and if you have time or are inclined, please feel free to explain your decision.
  • If you would like to create a post with a longer explanation of your decision, please pingback to THE CARAMEL CRUNCH post. (Or copy and paste a link to your post in the comments section – please feel free.)

If you know anything about CRUSHED CARAMEL, you will probably realize I am a gentle soul, so my questions are not supposed to be terrifying! What I am hoping for really is to see a variety of responses. Afterall, it’s pretty obvious that WordPress bloggers are from a huge variety of backgrounds and cultures. It would be fascinating to learn more about how we as individuals make decisions.

Some of the questions I am going to ask are questions I have discussed with friends when we have been having coffee or dinner. I often find there is no clear right or wrong. It can be so much a matter of our individual experiences and outlook. I find it fascinating how very different some of us are when it comes to decision making.

We all have different outlooks, and may make different decisions. I am really looking forward to learning WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

One Way Street, Decisions, Opportunity



Melanie Has Nominated Me For The Mystery Blogger Award

Corona, Virus, Corona Virus, Covid-19Every single day at work we are bombarded with questions in connection with the …you know. It’s hard to think about anything else. I know more and more people who are self-isolating and everyone else is social distancing. Many of my friends are anxious about their parents or grandparents. It is hard to switch off that anxiety. Then there are the financial worries many are facing. We are all wondering what is ahead.

Well, it is nice to have something to distract me. Melanie, creator of sparksfromacombustiblemind, has nominated me for THE MYSTERY BLOGGER AWARD, as you can from her post below:



What is the Mystery Blogger Award?

“Mystery Blogger Award” is an award for amazing bloggers with ingenious posts. Their blog not only captivates; it inspires and motivates. They are one of the best out there, and they deserve every recognition they get. This award is also for bloggers who find fun and inspiration in blogging; and they do it with so much love and passion. – Okoto Enigma


  • Put the award logo/image on your blog.
  • List the rules.
  • Thank whoever nominated you and provide a link to their blog – THANK YOU MELANIE!
  • Mention the creator of the award and provide a link as well.
  • Tell your readers 3 things about yourself.
  • Answer the questions from the blogger that nominated you
  • Nominate 10-20 other bloggers.
  • Ask your nominees any 5 questions of your choice; with one weird or funny question.
  • Share a link to your best posts.

Three Things About Myself

Supermarket, Shelves, ShoppingNormally I go to the same supermarket to do my shopping. But almost three weeks ago, I had to search five supermarkets near me in the search for toilet rolls. While I was at these different shops, I ended up buying all sorts of other items I don’t usually buy. It was costing me a fortune! Thinking about what I might need if I have to self-isolate completely for either seven days or a fortnight, I bought tinned goods that I don’t normally look at, including asparagus soup, curried baked beans, mushy peas and black eyes beans. I did eventually find toilet rolls and then Jack pinched most of them! I am just about to run out again, but I now know that as someone who works for the NHS, I have a route to obtain some! Wooh hoooh!

dadsesI had a dress all picked out for an event that I was supposed to be going to. But the event has been cancelled because of the …you know. My lovely dress will have to stay in the wardrobe for another big event. It is not really a summer dress, it is more of a winter dress. It is tapework and although it is lovely, the fabric feels quite heavy when you wear it. I showed Jack and he liked it. He liked taking it off me too. Normally, I go to a lot of large events on a regular basis, so the coming months will be very different. But it is a necessary measure to protect especially our precious older ones.

Just over a year ago, I lost a little apricot sized life growing within me. I wrote about my thoughts and feelings on WordPress last spring. I decided those scribbles were something I wanted to keep permanently, so I published them a while ago.


Five Questions From Melanie

Are you of the naughty or nice variety?

party2.pngNice. I just am. I like being nice.

Goldfinch, I think, would prefer it if I were a little bit more naughty. I tried! Especially in the bedroom. He told me to be myself…but I honestly think he would have preferred more naughtiness.

But I have niceness ingrained within me. I could be naughty, but I love people so much and don’t like to upset or offend anyone. That love of people restrains any inclination to be naughty.

I can be playful, I can be impetuous, I can be boisterous at times. However, if it seems as if my behaviour is even slightly annoying someone else, I change. I love people, and I love kindness.

What is the most hilarious childhood memory you can think of?

Ooooh – I can remember events that at the time were quite serious. But looking back they are kind of funny. I was six when I told the vicar off at my uncle’s wedding. I called him “a wicked man”. Maybe I will tell that story some time.

window cleanerAlso, both us and our neighbours would sometimes lock ourselves out. Several times my Dad was called upon to provide the solution. Because he was a window cleaner he had ladders. Because our council houses were so crumby, we all had damp problems, so we all tended to leave a little window flap open to allow ventilation. So whenever someone locked themselves out of the house, Dad would climb up the ladder with one of us little ones and we would have to squeeze through the little flap. We then had to run down stairs and open the front door. I remember having to find a chair or a bench to reach the door hand handle in both our house and the neighbours’ houses.

Mallorca, Formentor, Sea, VacationsWhat else? Hmm.

I remember so much from childhood that was funny, but I am struggling to think of something I would describe as hilarious. Our family holiday to Mallorca was memorable! Especially the day we hired a car and ended up taking a wrong turn (probably several wrong turns) and ended up stuck on a mountain track. We kept going believing we were following the map. The army had to help us when we ended up stranded and unable to move the hire car.

My first day off school Mumma dropped me off in the morning with her long brown hair. Then she went to have her hair cut. She picked me up with short hair. I stood there in tears denying she was my mother and telling the teacher I had never seen her before.

There have been some comic situations we ended up in. One day my sister Mandy got stuck in the cavity of a bridge’s foundations. We hoped it would be a good place for a den. Only Mandy who had gone in to investigate could not get out. I had to run home for Dad, who ended up calling the fire brigade.

Sexiest animal on the planet?

bpI don’t find animals sexy.

But it has to be some kind of cat surely. Something like a black panther. The way the sleak along cautiously, waiting to pounce.

There are some animals which I think are particularly beautiful. I think horses are gorgeous. Some dogs too just break your heart by how adorable they are.

What is one thing you refuse to share?

I wouldn’t share personal items like my toothbrush. I would share most things, but personal items used for hygiene – well, to share those would be daft surely!

secOr are you talking about information? There are things I like to keep to myself. What has my age got to do with anything? I ask you! What has the tiny account in my bank got to do with anything? What has my weight got to do with anything?

I don’t mean to be secretive in general, but I have learnt that some details are irrelevant and that you don’t have to share everything with others. I find that some of our friends have a fascination about Jack and me, but I am glossing over a lot of detail when it comes to what I share with others. Our relationship is for the two of us to define and enjoy.

If you could read minds, how would you use the gift?

London, Underground, Train StationI am so glad I can’t read minds. I think I would find it unnerving.

But sometimes I wonder whose heart is close to breaking. It scares me that there are people around me who are broken, lonely, desperate, lost – I sometimes I wish I knew who was walking around feeling as if they were going to give up. I would love to be able to do something, say something to lighten someone’s load and brighten their day.

Five Questions For My Nominees


My Nominees