You have met someone you really like. There has been some innocent flirting between you and after exchanging phone numbers you have been in contact frequently and been out for a couple of dates. It is still early days though. Your life long best friend tells you that they have met someone and have fallen in love and it turns out to be that same person. Your best friend is a little shy, but they tell you they want to ask the person you have been flirting with out on a date.



What is THE CARAMEL CRUNCH? Well, it’s all about decisions. When it comes to THE CRUNCH what would you do?

One of the definitions of the word CRUNCH is:

a crucial point or situation

 – generally involving a decision with weighty consequences

  • Your response can be a quickie. Please feel free to send a comment to say what you would do, and if you have time or are inclined, please feel free to explain your decision.
  • If you would like to create a post with a longer explanation of your decision, please pingback to THE CARAMEL CRUNCH post. (Or copy and paste a link to your post in the comments section – please feel free.)

If you know anything about CRUSHED CARAMEL, you will probably realize I am a gentle soul, so my questions are not supposed to be terrifying! What I am hoping for really is to see a variety of responses. Afterall, it’s pretty obvious that WordPress bloggers are from a huge variety of backgrounds and cultures. It would be fascinating to learn more about how we as individuals make decisions.

Some of the questions I am going to ask are questions I have discussed with friends when we have been having coffee or dinner. I often find there is no clear right or wrong. It can be so much a matter of our individual experiences and outlook. I find it fascinating how very different some of us are when it comes to decision making.

We all have different outlooks, and may make different decisions. I am really looking forward to learning WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

One Way Street, Decisions, Opportunity



18 thoughts on “THE CARAMEL CRUNCH #11”

  1. Best friends are more valuable than any budding romance. I and she are one half of the equation, and the guy is the other half. If all are playing the field and she has expressed an interest in a guy I was getting to know and like, I’d tell her about what had been transpiring between he and I and we could talk about what next. If one or the other of us liked him more, then I would think the other would step aside and let it play itself out. His half of the equation would work itself out as well, as he might ask one of us out first. If he asked the one who stepped aside out, I would think that person would decline and give her friend a chance with him. Too many variables to say more than that at this time, I would imagine. Quick answer for me: she can have him!

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    1. Years ago…a guy was taking me out and flirting with me. We used to spend hours together on our own star gazing and walking and talking. He was really special to me. Everyone was talking about our relationship. My best friend told me that she was in love with him. I was so young…I immediately worried about her. So I told this lovely guy not to talk to me anymore and said we could not be friends. He was bewildered. Years later I realized I had been very silly. He did not like my friend particularly, she was barely an acquaintance to him.

      I was too young at the time to understand what a silly billy I was.

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    1. I had a dilemma when I was in my late teens Sadje. I ended a very close friendship with a lovely young man because my best friend told me she was in love with him. However, it turned out he did not have any feelings for her.

      There is more to the story. Maybe I will write about what happened one day.

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    1. I think as I have grown older I would be more inclined to do that.
      When I was younger I ended a wonderful friendship with a lovely young man because my best friend told me she was in love with him (he didn’t like her though.)

      Looking back I can see how immature I was and my best friend was too. You learn about these things!

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  2. Be honest with friend and say exactly what happened… flirting & dates. Early stages. But I’m happy to step aside for her since she has deeper feelings for him. I certainly would NOT want to set up some sort of “competition” and let him decide. That’s gross. In the long run, I’d rather keep the friend. There are a lot of men and they aren’t worth it.

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    1. That’s probably the best way to view it. Honest communication has be helpful in any relationship.

      There are a lot of men who are not worth losing friendships over. Years ago I ended a very special friendship I had with a lovely young man because my best friend told me she was in love with him. It turned out he did not like her. He was bewildered when I suddenly told him I could not talk to him any more. I was a silly billy I think. I was just so young, I worried about my lovely best friend more than I worried about the young man who was the first guy I had a spark with.

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  3. Well, this situation is unlikely for me as I’m straight and my best friend is a guy (who is also straight), so if I had a crush on someone and went on some dates, my best friend wouldn’t be falling for my crush as well.

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    1. Years ago, I was very close to a lovely young man. My best friend (we had been friends since we were toddlers) told me she was in love with him. I told the guy I could not speak to him anymore. He was completely bewildered. He didn’t like my best friend. I was so young…I made a silly decision, but it was because of my love for my best friend.

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      1. Yeah, I remember seeing a similar situation on Little House on the Prairie.
        Well, if something like that happened to me, I’d pray about what to do and in the end let the guy make the decision about who he wanted to be with.
        Was this guy someone you were in love with?


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