You have fallen in love after courting someone who seems like everything you have ever hoped for in a partner. They want to marry you. However, one of you has a desire to start a family after the wedding, the other has no desire at all and as quite adamant that they do not want to have children.



What is THE CARAMEL CRUNCH? Well, it’s all about decisions. When it comes to THE CRUNCH what would you do?

One of the definitions of the word CRUNCH is:

a crucial point or situation

 – generally involving a decision with weighty consequences

  • Your response can be a quickie. Please feel free to send a comment to say what you would do, and if you have time or are inclined, please feel free to explain your decision.
  • If you would like to create a post with a longer explanation of your decision, please pingback to THE CARAMEL CRUNCH post. (Or copy and paste a link to your post in the comments section – please feel free.)

If you know anything about CRUSHED CARAMEL, you will probably realize I am a gentle soul, so my questions are not supposed to be terrifying! What I am hoping for really is to see a variety of responses. Afterall, it’s pretty obvious that WordPress bloggers are from a huge variety of backgrounds and cultures. It would be fascinating to learn more about how we as individuals make decisions.

Some of the questions I am going to ask are questions I have discussed with friends when we have been having coffee or dinner. I often find there is no clear right or wrong. It can be so much a matter of our individual experiences and outlook. I find it fascinating how very different some of us are when it comes to decision making.

We all have different outlooks, and may make different decisions. I am really looking forward to learning WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

One Way Street, Decisions, Opportunity



17 thoughts on “THE CARAMEL CRUNCH #10”

  1. This is a tough one, Caramel. I would think that the two would have to sit down and have a heart-to-heart conversation about it. If the one who wants to start a family is as set on it as the person who doesn’t, something/someone has got to “give” if they want to stay together long-term. It wouldn’t be fair to either one to force their want upon another without the other’s consent or acceptance. If they stay together for the moment and don’t get married, time is passing, as are opportunities to meet someone who can meet their needs/wants. If they do get married without the family/no-family part being decided, it’s a setup for big problems in the marriage. If they each love each other enough to want to get married, I would hope one would love the other enough to choose to accept the want of the other, but there are no guarantees.

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    1. It’s definitely something that should be discussed.
      I have had many friends who have been affected by this. I have one friend who took the matter into her own hands, and that caused huge strain on the marriage. her husband was already in a lot of debt so he was not happy at all. But they got on with it despite the drama. I think things are ok now, but it has been a rocky ride for them.

      Many of my friends and family chose to spend their twenties volunteering abroad and then started a family in their thirties. But some of them chose not to have children and are still in assignments abroad.

      I personally have never had the desire to become a parent. But neither am I set against it. So if I did marry and my husband wanted children, I would agree.

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