You are driving (or travelling) to an important event and you are late. You see a fellow traveller have an accident. There are a lot of other travellers nearby who might have also seen the incident.



What is THE CARAMEL CRUNCH? Well, it’s all about decisions. When it comes to THE CRUNCH what would you do?

One of the definitions of the word CRUNCH is:

a crucial point or situation

ย – generally involving a decision with weighty consequences

  • Your response can be a quickie. Please feel free to send a comment to say what you would do, and if you have time or are inclined, please feel free to explain your decision.
  • If you would like to create a post with a longer explanation of your decision, please pingback to THE CARAMEL CRUNCH post. (Or copy and paste a link to your post in the comments section – please feel free.)

If you know anything about CRUSHED CARAMEL, you will probably realize I am a gentle soul, so my questions are not supposed to be terrifying! What I am hoping for really is to see a variety of responses. Afterall, it’s pretty obvious that WordPress bloggers are from a huge variety of backgrounds and cultures. It would be fascinating to learn more about how we as individuals make decisions.

Some of the questions I am going to ask are questions I have discussed with friends when we have been having coffee or dinner. I often find there is no clear right or wrong. It can be so much a matter of our individual experiences and outlook. I find it fascinating how very different some of us are when it comes to decision making.

We all have different outlooks, and may make different decisions. I am really looking forward to learning WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

One Way Street, Decisions, Opportunity



28 thoughts on “THE CARAMEL CRUNCH #9”

  1. If it was sufficiently important that I didn’t feel I could stop, I’d call police to report the accident and give them my contact details in case they needed to talk to a witness.

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  2. The event you’re heading to is important, but what is more important? You can use your cell phone to call ahead to wherever you’re going and explain the circumstances. You may be able to help someone involved in the accident. How many times have you read about how a Good Samaritan who was the difference between life and death? There may be others who also witnessed, but do they have your set of skills that might make a difference?

    That said, it is unknown how bad the accident was. If it was a fender bender and you have to choose whether or not to miss, say, your only child’s wedding, then it is a different story. You do risk being charged with leaving the scene of an accident as a witness, but the odds of getting charged with that are slim; worth the risk for being present at your child’s wedding (or other momentous event.)

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    1. Well, I understand wanting to be at your only child’s wedding, but what if the accident was very severe? Or the victim’s of the accident were bleeding heavily and need someone there until an ambulance and the police arrive?
      I think in such a scenario, your child will forgive you if you are unable to make it.

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    2. You expressed it perfectly.
      I think I mentioned to someone last week that when I have been on foot, I have always stopped if I saw someone who needed help. Partly because I am a first aider and know I might be useful, partly because I would be horrified at the thought of people walking past and not stopping to help.

      But when I used to drive, I am not so sure of what I would have done. I have seen a few incidents, but I felt useless. Usually that was because I could see other people had already stopped. When I used to drive, I didn’t have a mobile phone, I didn’t know anything about mechanics and the cars I drove never belonged to me, I was insured to drive them for work.

      There was one incident that was pretty scary. I was about 21 at the time and I was hours away from home, driving up the M1 late at night when two cars a few metres ahead clipped each other and one spun round so it was facing the opposite way. it’s a miracle the rest of us managed to break and swerve to avoid them. I put my hazard lights on and pulled over onto the hard shoulder. I did not know what to do. I had no phone, I was scared to leave the car because there were still cars flying along the motorway. I waited for about ten minutes in a complete dilemma because it did not feel safe to be there, nor to leave the car. I felt like such an idiot. In the end I had to presume that the accident either was not as bad as I thought because the traffic was continuing as normal. But I always wondered what I should have done.

      When I was on foot I saw two drivers who had collided and were yelling at each other. I did step forward and asked if they were both alright and if they needed any help. I think that was enough for them to calm down. I asked if they had exchanged insurance details and suggested they take some photos.

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    1. I think I would feel more confident about seeing an accident I passed when I was on foot. I was a first aider so I would feel I could be useful. I have stopped a number of times when I saw someone on the floor to check if I could help.
      When I was in the car, I would really have panicked. I did not have a phone when I was driving. I did not know anything about mechanics. I did not own any of the cars I was driving (I drove them for work). I would be concerned that I could be an incumbrance rather than a help.

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      1. Yes, those are all important considerations. I wouldnโ€™t be able to physically help because of my own limitations. I would be more useful in getting people who could help.


  3. This is a trickier one than it first sounds. I think it might depend on whether I was alone in my car and how bad the accident was that I witnessed. If I felt that there was unlikely to be anyone injured and if I was alone I would probably drive on and call it in to avoid putting myself in a potentially dangerous situation. If it looked more serious or if I had someone with me I would stop. Maybe Iโ€™ve just read too many horror stories/conspiracy theories but I worry about stopping to help someone at the side of the road as a female when Iโ€™m alone. Having said that I once broke down when I was alone and I really appreciated those who took the time to stop and check that I was okay.

    Not a very decisive answer ๐Ÿ˜‚. I guess Iโ€™d go with my heart at the time.

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    1. No, I think you are absolutely right. Sometimes it’s hard to know for sure what is the safest thing to do. When I did my first aid training they warned us of the risk of making ourselves another casualty at a scene. They told us to be careful before we rushed in to a situation.
      Strangely, I feel much safer when I am on foot and see someone needs help. When I used to drive, I felt more vulnerable about stopping in a strange area, especially as I did not own a phone back then. On foot I would feel my first aid skills could be useful. But in a car, I would worry that without a phone to call for help, I could offer little assistance and might end up more of an incumbrance.

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  4. Well, after reading everyone else’s comments and thinking about it, if it was a severe accident and there weren’t many people around (also depending on how important the thing was that I was traveling to) I would stop and help, ringing an ambulance and police and also calling in to wherever it was that I was heading to and explain that I would be late.
    However, if there were many people around and they were already helping and they had already called for assistance, then I wouldn’t stop and would simply carry on my way.

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    1. I am always relieved when there are others around.
      I am sure people would understand why you were late.

      I mentioned in a few other comments that I feel much more confident about stopping when I have been on foot and saw someone in need of help. When I used to drive I did not have a phone. I would have been more doubtful about how much use I would be and I would feel more vulnerable.

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      1. Oh, yeah, I’m sure people will understand (though I’m sure there will be the judging/snobbish ones that will put up a fuss).
        Yeah, I’d wanna stop and make sure that the person was alright and if an ambulance or police or both were coming, then I’d stay with the person(s) to make sure nothing else happened while waiting for help to come.


      1. I am sure they would too.

        A few years ago, we were up in Napa/Sonoma CA, for my niece’s wedding, and right before I was going to leave for the wedding, there was a fire in the vineyards. I was ready to jump in and start fighting the fires as best I could, in my dress and everything. Fortunately, I didn’t have to. But I was willing to if necessary.


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