You realize that you have met someone who makes your pulse race, and who you love, admire and respect more than anyone else you have met. The two of you enjoy a romantic friendship and grow closer and closer. Love and trust build. But then…


…he or she goes home. Their visa has expired. They return to their home in a distant country. In their home country, they have responsibilities, they own a property, they have aging parents who need more assistance.

You accept that the person you are in love with had to go home. You miss them and they miss you. You both keep in touch regularly. But you also have family, responsibilities and a world of friends who you love in your home country.


Are you a great romantic? Or are you more practical in your outlook? Does family come before your lovelife? Or when love comes along, do you cling to the person you have fallen in love with?

emailsI have been blogging for around twenty months now. I have loved it! It’s so much more than I was expecting. When I started blogging I had no sense of direction. I only had a vague idea of what I was going to write about. However…other bloggers were hosting prompts. It might be a word, it might be a picture, it might be a question, or a whole list of questions. I have loved responding to prompts. It has engaged my thinking process and helped to improve my writing style and develop my WordPress blog.

I have been a little shy of hosting any prompts, partly because I didn’t want to detract from the prompts other bloggers were hosting. But I am reaching the stage where I thought I might have a stab at hosting a prompt. I think I am going to post it on a Saturday and it will be a weekly prompt. This new prompt will be called THE CARAMEL CRUNCH.


What is THE CARAMEL CRUNCH? Well, it’s all about decisions. When it comes to THE CRUNCH what would you do?

One of the definitions of the word CRUNCH is:

a crucial point or situation

Β – generally involving a decision with weighty consequences

  • Your response can be a quickie. Please feel free to send a comment to say what you would do, and if you have time or are inclined, please feel free to explain your decision.
  • If you would like to create a post with a longer explanation of your decision, please pingback to THE CARAMEL CRUNCH post. (Or please feel free to copy and paste a link to your post in the comments section.)

If you know anything about CRUSHED CARAMEL, you will probably realize I am a gentle soul, so my questions are not supposed to be terrifying! What I am hoping for really is to see a variety of responses. Afterall, it’s pretty obvious that WordPress bloggers are from a huge variety of backgrounds and cultures. It would be fascinating to learn more about how we as individuals make decisions.

Some of the questions I am going to ask are questions I have discussed with friends when we have been having coffee or dinner. I often find there is no clear right or wrong. It can be so much a matter of our individual experiences and outlook. I find it fascinating how very different some of us are when it comes to decision making.

We all have different outlooks, and may make different decisions. I am really looking forward to learning WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

One Way Street, Decisions, Opportunity





    1. Yay!!!
      Thanks Sadje πŸ™‚
      This first question is for obvious reasons. But the rest I will be shorter. I have scheduled them to be published every Saturday at 5:30pm.
      I can’t wait to see what decisions everyone would make. I am hoping for a wide variety of answers. I have a feeling we wouldn’t all do exactly the same thing with most of the questions I am raising.


    1. I think yours is one of the most romantic of replies to this question πŸ™‚

      It also makes me think. If Goldfinch had been a bit pushy about it, I would have probably dropped everything to go after him. Despite the impracticalities and the challenges. If he had made it clear that he wanted me to do that, I would have moved heaven and earth to be there with him. But he was not pushy. He left it to me to see how I feel.

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      1. I mean, there’s also a weighing-up process that needs to happen, am I prepared to swap what I have in Country #1 to take a chance on Country #2, but ultimately it sounded like we’re talking about a potential life partner….. and how many of them fo we meet in our lives? I think you have to be prepared to go for it.
        But as you say, in your case, if Goldfinch wanted you to go out there, he had a responsibility to make that clear. To just say “do your own thing”, after you’ve already been in a relationship together.,,, I think you have a right to expect something more definite if you’re gonna take the plunge.


  1. It’s a lovely and interesting idea, Mel!
    I wish you good luck for hosting this challenge.
    Even I love learning different perspectives on any aspect. It’s really fascinating.
    Coming to the questions- If I were in such a crunch,
    I am very much a romantic but family is everything to me. It’s my first priority.
    I would be broken to let go of a lovely person whom I hold on to in my heart but sadly I’d have to do it and cherish the person through memories which btw no one can ever take away from my heart. I believe nothing is worth losing family.
    Thinking about Mr. Goldfinch while you prepared this?

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      1. I guessed it right then!
        I’m looking forward to many more interesting questions and I wish you and Jack have a happy year ahead!

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    1. I think ultimately, that is the decision I have made, to stay near to my family and let all my practical concerns dominate my thinking. The romantic side to me would loved to have upsticks and moved to Australia, but I can’t forget about practicalities after the injuries I had.
      In my case I have debated my decision over and over. I think when it comes to matters of the heart, there are no easy decisions. Often, I’ not sure there is right or wrong. It’s just accepting that whatever decision you make will have lasting consequences and you have to be prepared to live with them.
      I used to become very intense about my decisions, as if they were the be-all-and-end-all. But now I am more relaxed. I try to make sure that despite my decision, I make sure that Goldfinch knows how much he matters to me and how important to me his happiness is.

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        1. I still have an occasional tear Cheryl. Even though what has happened with Jack has been such an unexpected and wonderful development. But I think I will be mourning over the loss of Goldfinch for a long time. He is an amazing man. Some amazing woman is going to convince him to tie the knot and I will be covering my pillow with tears.

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    1. Hey Bee!
      That would be great. I have scheduled twenty different questions so far. I am going to publish one question a week, every Saturday evening at 5:30pm. There are all sorts of questions coming, but they are all questions with no obvious right or wrong. I am really hoping there will be a variety of responses to each one.
      it should be fascinating to hear from our international multicultural array of bloggers.


      1. I absolutely agree. As for your question in this post: I went for love, left my family and went from Germany to the UK. Gone through hell (first UK partner) to reach heaven (now husband) here. πŸ˜πŸ™‹β€β™€οΈπŸ

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  2. Mel, I think it’s a great idea you’re going to do this. Twenty months of consistent blogging, I can’t even imagine. I hope I can get to twenty months. But you live such a life that you have something to share every single day; and the fact you are brave enough to share about it all. I really do admire you, and I hope that I can fulfill these prompts, but may not always be able to.
    As for the current prompt itself: No, I am far from a romantic. I am an extrovert with heart as cold as the Arctic. Mind you, I am a very sweet and gentle person when interacting with cute, fluffy kittens and occasionally children when they’re not being gremlins. Additionally, I will warm up to those that give out positive vibes and for those that go the length to show they care and love in a platonic way, I would do anything for them.

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    1. Well…I can easily understand why a fluffy kitten would steal your heart any day!
      I’m on the fence with children. I love all the little ones in our family. But they are like little pinballs. They crazily bounce around running into furniture and injuring themselves, and then they scream like banshees until something fun distracts them.


  3. Whether or not I’m romantically inclined or not, you’d probably have to ask my wife. I’ll answer your question, “Does family come before your love life, or when love comes along, do you cling to the person you have fallen in love with?” with a question of my own: Why do you consider these two options to be mutually exclusive? Surely if it is truly love, there is no division between love life and family. They meld together. Otherwise, pressure from one will surly decimate the other,


    1. What you say is very true.
      I guess my first question on THE CARAMEL CRUNCH was very personally motivated.
      The man I courted for almost two years. He has a property there and his parents who are advanced in age are there. His whole world is there really.
      I met him when he was in England for two years for work while his house was being built. But my family are here in England. They have been of enormous support to me since I was the victim of crime that left me with serious head injuries and a lot of trauma.
      There is a very sentimental side to me that would love to just upsticks and go to Australia and tell him I can’t live without him. But I have held back from doing that for so many practical reasons. One is that I don’t want to be a burden to him. I couldn’t bear to be. My heart has been torn for so long.
      Now I am in a new relationship, but my former Australian beau is still one of my closest friends and we are in touch all the time.


      1. There is certainly nothing wrong with questions being personal. It was definitely a good question, but this is why I say that I don’t know if I’m a hopeless romantic or hopelessly practical. I have a tendency to believe that if we seek love, it will flee from us, but if we seek contentment, the love we need has a way of finding us. For me, prayer & faith had a good bit to do with it as well.

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