He Wants Me To Be Brave

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hiding away.pngI have mentioned at times that I am anxious about what people might say (especially online) once Jack and me go public. After all the discussions we have had, it seems obvious that Jack genuinely did not understand the scale of what I was facing before, during and after we were living in the same flat.

Jack and I have been having a great time together. We have had a lot of fun and just spent lots of time talking and touching and teasing. I think we are happier and stronger week by week. But again and again we have come back to this subject of what people say on social media. What people say about what is frankly none of their business.

Jack is going to be very cautious and careful with anyone who tries to get him to make a comment about our relationship. But we will be together sometimes in public. Both informally, we are going to go out places and not try to hide away so much. And we will be together formally – at public events. So people will know. It’s likely there will be photographs. Jack cannot control what random scary people decide to say. It is something unpredictable. But he wants me to avoid any of that and to be immune to it. Jack wants me to be brave.

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As for what our friends and colleagues might say – well, that is a different ballgame. Jack can express his indignation if anyone is unkind. In the past, he dealt with comments from our friends with a lot of humour. But I think that fed their boldness. They kept on and on saying worse and worse. So, I don’t think humour is going to be the response to begin with. I am asking Jack to be a bit stern with people if they are critical or their humour is on the cruel side.

I love Jack.

12 thoughts on “He Wants Me To Be Brave”

  2. Very sweet and I agree with you. Jack needs to take a hard stance regarding improper and rude comments. In which shutting it down and indicating that it is completely unacceptable. And you remember at all times the relationship is between you and Jack. All others will never know what is between you only what they conjecture and make up. You have this. Hugs. 🙂

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    1. I don’t understand the “rules” in social media. Or maybe there are no rules. People seem to be able and eager to say whatever they want, no matter how nasty it is.

      I don’t like to think about what happened in the past, but I am hoping we won’t have a repeat of that kind of behaviour.

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      1. I know I have said before and will say again what people say is what they believe not what is. I have been on a much smaller scale the talk of all that was disgusting in high school. Something a counsellor once said to me made me change how I thought: imagine how much you must mean to that person who is talking about you as they cannot find anything/anyone else to focus on. And while it is akin to being stalked remember your truth and Jack’s truth not the vile words people put together. Here I go again lol with my words of wisdom. Or prattle whichever way you chose to look at it. 🤓💜

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  3. Looking at this from my advanced age, it seems to me that discretion, while the best part of valor, is a waste of time. Time you two should spend celebrating your love for each other. One day you and Sir Jack will come to realize that worrying about what others think was that waste of time. I mean who cares what others think? There’s an old saying “What others think of me is none of my business.” I hope things get easier. And making a total display in public is over-rated. It IS personal between you. And your decision and business totally as a couple.

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    1. Thank you Melanie. Because Jack is so much in the public eye, there is always an element of complete strangers who “follow” him who seem ever ready to offer all sorts of uninvited opinions.

      But I am going to try not to let that become an issue this time round. Jack and I will be mindful that when we are at public events in connection with the charities we work with, the focus should be on the work those charities do. So although we will be together, and there may be some physical contact between us, it’s not appropriate to view those events as a date night. We should be professional.

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