And so the party goes on. Jack and I will be together again, starting the year as we mean to go on! I am going to be waking up on Wednesday morning in the apartment I used to live in. How strange. But not in the room I used to sleep in. Instead, I will be on the other side of that thin wall. I will be in Jack’s room. So strange.
Crazy fancy dress do tonight. The theme is nostalgia. That seemed an odd theme to me, but our friend Danny who is throwing the party often has out of the box ideas.
Jack is dressing like MC Hammer. I have no idea why he picked MC Hammer. Jack is nuts! He is going to look terrible. Please, please don’t let any photos of him in his costume make their way onto the internet. I am going as a hippy. Why? Best I could do as I looked through the local charity shops for ideas.
I am sure there will be better costumes than the ones we have chosen. I am going to a party with MC Jackhammer! What a crazy night this will be!
Starting a new year in a way I never imagined possible! What a turn out! What a miracle!
I am still nervous about some of the challenges that will come (when the news hits Instagram and Twitter). But I am determined to keep my eyes focused on him and not let the pressure from anyone else get to me.
Do you know what is great? Caramel is no longer CRUSHED CARAMEL!!! She is absolutely choked up, stoked up, crying with glee and amazement. Should I change the name of the blog to CHUFFED CARAMEL or CARAMEL ON CLOUD NINE? Or maybe from now on…I will drop the CRUSHED…and just be plain CARAMEL!
Oh I did not want to go to work today! Paid work that is. I was not in the mood for it at all. I was right to feel that way. On numerous occasions, I felt like saying, “just because you have eaten too much, drunk too much, spent too much and argued with your nearest and dearest too much – please do not come here and take out all of your frustration on me!”
Anyway, I survived work! Ten hours of work! Not once did I say what I was thinking. Instead I smiled serenely at all of our patients and calmly explained what they needed to do next.
In between obnoxious outbursts from clearly unhappy patients, I closed my eyes and thought about my wonderful family. We didn’t eat too much. There was no alcohol. We burnt off the calories everyday by running after the kids. There were no arguments at all. We didn’t spend too much money because we don’t do decorations or gifts. We just make the most of the time off work to be together. As every day with my family tends to be – it was very joyful.
Love, joy and peace do not come from things, whether they are shiny or sparkly, nor food, whether sweet or savoury. Love, joy and peace come from making sure everyday is about giving to the people you come into contact with. Giving a smile, a kind word, a thank you, a forgiving spirit, a compliment, a listening ear, some support, a funny joke or a host of other things that brighten their day and lighten their load. Love, joy and peace have nothing to do with the great commercial materialistic event that was last week.
Now I back at my little nest recovering from a demanding day at work, I am bracing myself for another long day at work tomorrow, after which I will travel to the other side of London to see Jack. So excited!!!
This post I am writing before I go away to spend some time with my family during the holidays. Both he and I are going to tell our close family members that we have been “dating” and plan to continue doing so.
I am going to tell my family something they may find hard to grasp, because they didn’t want to hear me say it in the past. I am in love with him. Despite everything that went terribly wrong, I never stopped loving him.
By the time this post is published, they will know and will have had time to question me at length and understand what is going on. I have given it a lot of thought. I have been writing things down to tell my family. I may even take the opportunity to finally introduce them to my posts on CRUSHED CARAMEL.
Jack has an event early in January, at which I will be making my first “public” appearance alongside him. Sick with nerves? Oh yes! But I am keeping my focus on how much I love Jack. It am anxious about the challenges that will come. It’s not pleasant to be at the mercy of opinionated comments from strangers. My main strategy to deal with it is going to be simply not to look. I am just going to keep my rose-tinted loving outlook.
How will our relationship develop? I don’t know. The past few months have been so wonderful. I can only hope things will be equally as wonderful despite possible challenges. The big question mark in my mind is…what about our lives? He is still immersed in the lifestyle I led before I was victim to a crime. He is involved in all sorts of projects for various charities. He has events and projects (some abroad) planned throughout 2020. He has been asking me to reserve certain dates so I can attend charity functions and social occasions with him.
But what about us? There is a long road ahead. Is it going to be even possible to merge our lives together completely? I don’t think I can re-qualify for international volunteer status. My head is still a problem. They can’t use me the same way. So if we were to merge our lives…he would have to give up international assignments, because they won’t split couples up (well, married couples). So…if he wants to stay in his purposeful life…we will have to continue to live separately. Or if he wants to put me first, he will have to be content with UK assignments only, which is all I qualify for at the moment.
It’s going to be hard for him to make that kind of decision. I don’t want to pressure him in any way. In fact, I don’t want him to have to give up that life. It hurts to think of having to slow him down in doing something we both passionately care about. Maybe that means that it would be better just to carry on the way we are, so that he can live the life of an international volunteer. He already has an assignment in the Middle East and one in Central Africa in the next few months. I am going to have to get used to him being away for weeks at a time.
This is hard because if you love someone to the extent that you want to go where they go and always be close to them…the thought of having to live separately until the person you love is ready to give up the life they love for you – it is hard. So so hard.
I am just going to be content with what we have now. I am his caramel blonde girlfriend. I am his lover. Come 2020, the whole world can know about it. He is my lover!
Well…today has a been a relaxing and enjoyable day of catching up on everything. Mainly housework and laundry. I have been trying to catch up with blogging too. I have had a crazy week and today has been calm and quiet – which is exactly what I needed.
While I was away, I did not have my laptop, so I couldn’t do much on WordPress. The tablet I use is cantankerous. I can view and like posts, but attempting anything else is futile, because the tablet blows a fuse when I try to do anything more demanding. So I have been trying to go back and reply to all the lovely comments from the past few crazy busy weeks.
I am going to relax here in my crib for the rest of the evening. I have a tub of home made saag aloo (my favourite) that my friend Nisha made and saved a portion for me. I also have a recipe for a vegan curry, made with chickpea, sweet potato and spinach as well as a generous amount of peanut butter! I want to make and freeze it into individual portions.
That is how I intend to use the rest of the evening, along with a glass of red wine. Early night for me I think. I am still exhausted by all the little ones I was entertaining last week, and the thought of the busy week ahead is overwhelming too! This is my chance to rest and relax and let myself recover from the crazy pace of this month.
As I am sure you have noticed, Jim Adams, aka Newepicauthor, the creator of A Unique Title For Me, is hosting SONG-LYRIC-SUNDAY and this week he has chosen the theme: CRAZY. I have enjoyed this theme as much as any other of Jim’s themes and it is great to be able to fully enjoy SONG-LYRIC-SUNDAY again.
I was thinking of another song. I like this song because I know only too well what it is to be crazy in love. I know how much Jack loves this song too. He is still up in the north. He drives back tomorrow morning. But I am sure he will approve of both of the songs I have chosen for today. I have to work on Monday and Tuesday, but I will be heading straight over to see Jack on Tuesday evening and spending Wednesday with him. That’s right – I am going to be at his home (formerly our home) for the first time in over four years.
We danced to this song with all the kids (there are a lot of kids in my family) up in Snowdonia. I was teaching them to do Beyonce dance moves. They loved it. But we were listening to the music over the speakers, we didn’t watch the videos. I would be horrified at the little ones in my family seeing a lot of modern music videos. I want to protect their beautiful minds and keep them as gorgeous and delightful as they are now.
Anyway, I have added a slow version of this song and the faster original version below.
Here is the mighty original for those who don’t get annoyed by people prancing around in their underwear. I find it strange to see women gyrating around in their smalls. But apparently it sells. So, if they want to do that to earn money – hmm.
Yes! It’s so crazy right now!
Most incredibly, it’s your girl, B,
It’s your boy, young.
You ready?
Uh oh, uh oh, uh oh, oh no no
Uh oh, uh oh, uh oh, oh no no
Uh oh, uh oh, uh oh, oh no no
Uh oh, uh oh, uh oh, oh no no
Yeah, history in the making,
Part 2, it’s so crazy right now
I look and stare so deep in your eyes,
I touch on you more and more every time,
When you leave I’m begging you not to go,
Call your name two three times in a row,
Such a funny thing for me to try to explain,
How I’m feeling and my pride is the one to blame.
‘Cause I know I don’t understand,
Just how your love can do what no one else can.
Got me looking so crazy right now,
Your love’s got me looking so crazy right now
Your love got me looking so crazy right now,
Your touch got me looking so crazy right now
Your touch got me hoping you’ll page me right now,
Your kiss got me hoping you’ll save me right now
Looking so crazy
Your love’s got me looking, got me looking so crazy
Your love.
Uh oh, uh oh, uh oh, oh no no
Uh oh, uh oh, uh oh, oh no no
Uh oh, uh oh, uh oh, oh no no
Uh oh, uh oh, uh oh, oh no no
When I talk to my friends so quietly,
Who he think he is? Look at what you did to me,
Tennis shoes, don’t even need to buy a new dress,
If you ain’t there ain’t nobody else to impress,
It’s the way that you know what I thought I knew,
It’s the beat my heart skips when I’m with you,
But I still don’t understand,
Just how the love you’re doing no one else can
Got me looking so crazy right now,
Your love’s got me looking so crazy right now (oh crazy)
Got me looking so crazy right now,
Your touch (you’re in love) got me looking so crazy right now (love!)
Got me hoping you’ll page me right now,
Your kiss got me hoping you’ll save me right now
Looking so crazy
Your love’s got me looking, got me looking so crazy
Your love.
I’m looking so crazy
Your love’s got me looking, got me looking so crazy your love.
I’m on that now, let’s go
Young Hov y’all know when the flow is loco,
Young B and the R-O-C
O.G. Big Homie, the one and only,
Stick bony,
But the pocket is fat like Tony,
Soprano the ROC handle like Van Exel,
I shake phonies man, you can’t get next to,
The genuine article I do not sing though,
I sling though, if anything I bling yo,
Star like Ringo, war like a Green Beret
Crazy bring your whole set,
Jay-Z in the range,
Crazy and deranged,
They can’t figure them out they like hey is he insane
Yes sir I’m cut from a different cloth,
My texture is the best fur: chinchilla.
(Uh oh, uh oh, uh oh, oh no no)
I’ve been iller than chain smokers,
How you think I got the name Hova?
(Uh oh, uh oh, uh oh, oh no no)
I been realer the game’s over,
(Uh oh, uh oh, uh oh, oh no no)
Fall back young, ever since I made the change over
(Uh oh, uh oh, uh oh, oh no no)
To platinum the game’s been a wrap, one!
Got me looking, so crazy, my baby
I’m not myself, lately I’m foolish, I don’t do this,
I’ve been playing myself, baby I don’t care
‘Cause your love’s got the best of me,
And baby you’re making a fool of me,
You got me sprung and I don’t care who sees,
‘Cause baby you got me, you got me so crazy baby
Got me looking so crazy right now,
Your love’s (oh love) got me looking so crazy right now (lookin’ crazy)
Got me looking so crazy right now,
Your touch got me looking so crazy right now
Got me hoping you’ll page me right now,
Your kiss (baby) got me hoping you’ll save me right now (baby)
Looking so crazy
Your love’s got me looking, got me looking so crazy
Your love.
Got me looking so crazy right now,
Your love’s got me looking so crazy right now
Your love got me looking so crazy right now,
Your touch got me looking so crazy right now
Your touch got me hoping you’ll page me right now,
Your kiss got me hoping you’ll save me right now
Looking so crazy
Your love’s got me looking, got me looking so crazy
Your love.
Written By: Rich Harrison, Beyoncé Knowles, Eugene Record and Shawn Carter
Jim Adams, aka Newepicauthor, the creator of A Unique Title For Me, is hosting SONG-LYRIC-SUNDAY and this week he has chosen the theme: CRAZY
Yet another theme, where I think we are spoilt for choice. But I had to go with the song that is perfectly capturing my mood at the moment!
Oh yes….it is a cracking song – and I could not resist making it my choice. Is there a better song to describe he and me right now??? Let ’em call me (and Jack) crazy!!! What do they know?!!
What a way to see this year out…this crazy crazy year! The world might be falling apart, but I reckon Jack and me can make it! Looking in Jack’s eyes, I see a paradise…and one that I hope will last forever! We’re gonna build this dream together, standing strong forever! And if…if this world does run out of lovers, Jack and me will have each other!
Yayyyyyyyy! It’s crazy! Jack and me are a couple. Family now know! Exciting! And it is not long until my first public event with him. What a way to start 2020. Put your hand in my hand Jack…don’t ever ever look back! Nothing’s gonna stop us now!!!!!!!
I present to you: Starship “Nothing’s Gonna Stop Is Now”
Lookin’ in your eyes
I see a paradise
This world that I found
Is too good to be true
Standin’ here beside you
Want so much to give you
This love in my heart
That I’m feelin’ for you
Let ’em say we’re crazy
I don’t care ’bout that
Put your hand in my hand
Baby, don’t ever look back
Let the world around us
Just fall apart
Baby, we can make it
If we’re heart to heart
And we can build this dream together
Standing strong forever
Nothing’s gonna stop us now
And if this world runs out of lovers
We’ll still have each other
Nothing’s gonna stop us
Nothing’s gonna stop us now
Oh, whoa
I’m so glad I found you
I’m not gonna lose you
Whatever it takes
I will stay here with you
Take it to the good times
See it through the bad times
Whatever it takes
Is what I’m gonna do
Let ’em say we’re crazy
What do they know
Put your arms around me
Baby, don’t ever let go
Let the world around us
Just fall apart
Baby, we can make it
If we’re heart to heart
And we can build this dream together
Standing strong forever
Nothing’s gonna stop us now
And if this world runs out of lovers
We’ll still have each other
Nothing’s gonna stop us
Nothing’s gonna stop us
Ooh, all that I need is you
All that I ever need
And all that I want to do
Is hold you forever ever and ever, hey
And we can build this dream together
Standing strong forever
Nothing’s gonna stop us now
And if this world runs out of lovers
We’ll still have each other
Nothing’s gonna stop us
Nothing’s gonna stop us
We can build this dream together
Standing strong forever
Nothing’s gonna stop us now
Nothing’s gonna stop us
And if this world runs out of lovers
We’ll still have each other
Nothing’s gonna stop us now
We can build this dream together
Standing strong forever
Nothing’s gonna stop us now
World runs out of lovers
Nothing’s gonna stop us
We’ll still have each other
We can build this dream together
Standing strong forever
Nothing’s gonna stop us now
I know it’s not convenient. It’s 10,100 miles of inconvenience.
I know it’s not practical. It’s 10,100 miles of impracticalities.
I know it’s not straightforward. I am with someone else now.
But…I miss you, all the same.
My train was waiting for fifteen minutes at Coventry. I have no idea why it was waiting. Perhaps just to torture me with memories of how it felt to arrive there and run from the train up the steps and across the station to meet you. I was always so excited to arrive at Coventry.
But this time, I was just stuck on a London bound train, waiting at Coventry station for no obvious reason at all. I miss you terribly. I miss those train journeys to Coventry, all of the excitement of seeing you again.
Oh the mayhem that is our family hanging out during the winter bank holidays! So much fun! Games, epic hide and seek, karaoke and dancing. A lot of dancing. The little kids in our family absolutely love dancing.
A lamp was broken, but other than that, no casualties. A great time had by all. Nobody allowed to stay on the sofa. After all the yummy soup, lasagne and garlic bread, chilli and rice, cheesecake and trifle (yes that’s what we have been eating all week!) we made sure we burnt off the calories.