Girl Talk

best in wengenIt has been generally cold, grey, damp and miserable. That is the weather of course…certainly not the course of my life of late!

I had a hot chocolate the other day. It was like drinking thick chocolate soup. It was delicious. It has been a long time when I have been cold and tired enough to want that kind of indulgence, but I am so glad of it. There was something I really wanted to tell my friend I was having hot chocolate with. I was so desperate for some girl talk. But I couldn’t tell her without blowing the cover Jack and I are managing to maintain.

I had a few e-mails from my ex. I haven’t written lots about him. Basically, before I met Goldfinch, there was a male friend of mine that tried to date me. But it went terribly wrong. Several reasons. he is wealthy, and he really likes money and what it can buy. That was a problem to me. In addition, the kind of relationship he wanted was not the kind of relationship I wanted.

We called it quits in September 2017, around six weeks before I met Goldfinch. But we have been friends for a long time, so we kept in touch. Anyway, in the summer I told him I was going out to Australia. I realized that he had presumed I was moving out there to live in Australia. I just didn’t see any need to correct him.

smart phoneWell, a couple of weeks ago, news got back to him that I am here in England, and I have had several messages from him. I don’t know whether to tell him I am seeing someone else, someone here. It may provoke his investigative nature. He knows Jack. No, I can’t let on anything.

I think I will just send a general friendly message not telling him anything about my relationship status. I could do the British thing, and talk about the weather.

The most important thing is to make sure I do not give him any ideas about he and I getting back together again. It took him a long time to except Goldfinch. I think it is best to leave him in ignorance for the moment.

7 thoughts on “Girl Talk”

  1. Eep. His investigative nature sounds slightly ominous! You could always wait and only meet up with him after you feel comfortable telling him everything??

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    1. The thing is, we have been friends for years. I know he cares about me. He was a great support after I was the victim of a serious crime. He made a big fuss of me. He wanted to date me, I could see he liked the idea of spoiling me. I am not one for being spoilt. And he and I were a little bit chalk and cheese when it came to the more personal side of our relationship.

      It wasn’t working. And we both agreed it wasn’t working. I can’t even remember who expressed that first. But we both said we agreed it wasn’t working. I think it’s lovely that he has continued to care so much. But he has kept trying.

      I met him for lunch earlier this year. I see him at some events. I think I have seen him around three times in total this year (not as often as in the past).

      Him thinking I was in Australia meant he wasn’t inviting me for lunch or to the theatre. I wouldn’t mind going with him, he is nice company, except that he can be a bit too tactile. So to avoid that, it is best not to go out with him. Well, that’s what I think.

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  2. If he knows you’re seeing someone it might prevent awkward questions further down the line. He doesn’t need to know who – it’s none of his business, really, but I’m sure you could think of a more diplomatic form of words! Just a thought…

    I used to find that the “just good friends” aspect never really worked – it was usually better to make a clean break. But that was just me.


    1. He’s not the kind of person I should need to cut contact with. He has been very supportive. It’s just making clear that I don’t want to go down that road again with him.

      He did eventually accept that I was very much in love with someone else. I am sure he will again. He will probably be very surprised when he eventually learns about “Jack” and me. It’s just the time in between now and then, I am going to have to be careful with what I say to him.

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