Taking It On The Chin With A Grin

stressI have been spending time with “him”, which is just wonderful. Work is wonderful. I have a relative who is very ill, and it is a hard to see what she is going through. But the whole family (there are a lot of family), and many many friends are all making sure she knows how much she is loved!

I was chatting with “him”, and he was telling me about a challenge he was dealing with when we were living together. One of his very close relatives was battling cancer. He didn’t tell me back then, he didn’t tell any of us (six of us shared a huge flat). Just a couple of his close friends knew at the time. He was feeling it at the time, it was stressing him out a lot. But all we saw was him being cheerful and charismatic – as ever. He is so good at cracking on with work and keeping everyone happy, there are often no visible signs of stress. He says that stress did affect his relationship with me. It went terribly wrong, and he just did not have the emotional energy for it because of everything he was juggling.

fave memory.pngFunny how sometimes you just don’t realize what those close to you, those who you love, might be going through. He said he loved the atmosphere in our flat. We had lots of pizza nights (with real home-made pizzas). There were some great times in that flat. I wish we could have had more! In some ways, what happened between him and I cast a shadow over the fun in the flat. He and I went from awkward to hostile. Anyway…it is all in the past. We can only learn from hindsight. It means a lot to understand more about why he was so weird back then.

These are the thoughts on my mind as I turn my my attention to preparing my SHARE-YOUR-WORLD post. As I have skipped one of the questions, please check out the complete list of questions from Melanie, the creator of sparksfromacombustiblemind, in her original post:

https://sparksfromacombustiblemind.com/2019/09/30/share-your-world-9-30-19/

QUESTIONS:

questI have decided to skip the first question that was listed in this weeks SHARE-YOUR-WORLD.

Having been the victim of some of the serious crimes listed, it just lowered my mood so much thinking about it, I decided I would negate to answer the first question. But I will say this…filming a real crime for entertainment purposes – insane!!

So moving on…

If someone asked to be your apprentice and learn all that you know, what would you teach them?

having a blast.gif“All that I know”…well that would take about five minutes – not much of an apprenticeship! I am not an expert in any subject really, I am a jack of all trades (or apparently the term for a woman is “a jill of all trades”) kind of person. So it would be an apprenticeship with a huge variety of content, but none of those subjects would be studied in depth.

My apprentice would complete the training exactly like me – a really good “all-rounder”, who likes to smile a lot, and has a million stories to tell because of all the projects she has worked on and the fascinating people she has met.

And most of all my apprentice would learn how to make sure that everyday, come what may, is an absolute blast!

First think of a product. Now, what would be the absolute worst brand name for one of those products?

butter on your bumOh…the product that came to mind was toilet paper…as for the worst possible brand name…maybe I will skip this question too!!! But my friends have chuckled often at some of the features of toilet paper we have seen on supermarket shelves:

SHEA BUTTER TOILET PAPER – who wants to put butter on their bum?

RECYCLED TOILET PAPER – nice!

SUDOKU TOILET PAPER – really?

CAMOUFLAGE TOILET PAPER – now that’s just nasty!

But it doesn’t end there, you can buy valentine’s toilet paper, musical toilet paper and toilet paper printed with personal photographs, we have seen photos of politicians, military figures, pop stars…the list goes on. It’s all rather disturbing!

I think instead at this point, it would be more educational and positive to watch an instructive toilet paper origami video:

If you enjoyed that there are many many more toilet paper origami videos online!

What ridiculous and untrue, yet slightly plausible, theories can you come up with for the cause of common ailments like headaches or cavities?

headacheGoodness…every morning I have head pain when I wake up. I have occasionally made up comedy reasons. I remember telling my family, friends, or Goldfinch things like these:

IT’S THE LITTLE PEOPLE IN MY HEAD PRACTICING THEIR RIVERDANCE ROUTINE

THE MOTHER SHIP IS SENDING AN ENCODED MESSAGE, THE PAIN WILL STOP AS SOON AS THE DATA TRANSFER IS COMPLETE

IT’S BECAUSE I AM SO BRAINY, MY HEAD SOMETIMES HURTS BECAUSE MY SKULL IS TOO SMALL AND THERE IS NO WHERE ELSE FOR MY BRAIN TO GO

IT’S YOUR FAULT, YOU HAVE BEEN MAKING LOVE TO ME IN MY DREAMS ALL NIGHT, NOW MY HEAD IS IN PAIN RECOVERING

fml-yoga-jaw.jpgHowever…that middle one…it’s not all that funny it turns out. I have had exactly that problem (not being “brainy”), inflammation of my brain tissue…has caused my brain stem to go the only place it can…downwards. This is part of the reason I have been in hospital a number of times with major issues, after I was attacked and received multiple severe blows to my head.

But hey…we do try to keep a sense of humour do we not!!! Adversity – take it on the chin with a grin! Nothing damaged that can’t be fixed eventually. I’m sure my Creator has it covered.

Here is a great ditty from Edgar A. Guest:

WITH A LIFT OF [HER] CHIN AND A BIT OF A GRIN

WITHOUT ANY DOUBTING OR “QUIT IT”

[SHE] STARTED TO SING AS [SHE] TACKLED THAT THING

THAT COULDN’T BE DONE AND [SHE] DID IT!!!


GRATITUDE:

If you’d like to, please share a photo or an example of gratitude that you have.  Thanks!  

IMG_20180722_123051 (2)I am especially grateful at the moment to this wonderful man, who lives far far away from me, but who is still a very important part of my life.

He is like my bestie at the moment. None of my nearest and dearest know about the recent development with my ex-flatmate. But my beloved friend on the opposite side of the planet has been very lovely about things.

Initially expressing some concern, because he knows what happened in the past, remarking that I have a great capacity for forgiveness (hey how can you not when you know what others have forgiven you for?) and reassuring me over and over. He wants me to be happy.

Supportive, kind, lovely, gorgeous…he is a very special man – and I am not going to stop loving him. I am so grateful for everything, the exciting romance, the adventures in the bedroom, and his friendship, which means so much to me.

I know I am going to have to draw some lines, some borders in my heart…the 10,100 miles make it easier to keep my focus on the man who is here, the man I know is as close to a soul-mate as I will ever find…but I do not ever want to stop loving the gorgeous Australian who helped so many internal wounds heal. He has been a special part of my life…and he will always be.

 

4 thoughts on “Taking It On The Chin With A Grin

  1. Thanks Mel for Sharing Your Beautiful World! I wondered if that first question wouldn’t be a ‘trigger’ type question for some folks, but I felt it was worth asking, because the attitude of “I’m just going to ignore it” has to stop. Anyway. I’m so happy for you and your ‘new’ love and all the romance that’s happening! Wonderful. And Goldfinch was a lovely man, wasn’t he? He has very kind eyes. How blessed you are/were to know him!

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    1. I understand Melanie. It was too close to home for me to contemplate it.

      Yes Goldfinch is really wonderful. I am so grateful for him. The distance is a pain…but he is still so kind and supportive via phone and e-mail. What would I do without him?

      I love his eyes….well I love every part of him.

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