I Am Ready For Dancing, But Nothing Else

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Should I go to a party on Saturday with a male friend who has been single for about a year?

dateHis girlfriend moved to Canada when she had an exciting job opportunity. As far as he says, they were happy together and will always be friends. But he says they do not have plans to continue their relationship in the future, she is dating other men over there. I think he volunteered all this when I was talking to him and some other friends when I went out for drinks last week.

He texted me a couple of times that night and basically said he thought that he and I have a lot in common (because my Goldfinch has moved to Australia). He said any time I want to talk I could call him.

It is unlikely I will know anyone else at the party, so I will be a bit tied to him perhaps. Although I am not at all shy, even with new people. The thing is, it really is too soon for me to go out on anything that would be regarded as a “date”. Way too soon!

How would he take it if I admit that I don’t want to develop a close friendship with another man yet? However, I would love, absolutely love to go to a party and have a dance! Will he be alright with that?

It would be nice to put on a frock, and go out for a dance. I don’t want to offload about missing Goldfinch to him (hey I have all of you for that!!!) and I don’t want to give him any impression that I am ready to think of someone else so very soon after losing my beloved.

I have told Goldfinch already by the way. I don’t want him to be left out of my decisions over when it is time to go out with another man. I miss Goldfinch so much. I keep imagining him wrapping his arms around me and holding me close while I sleep. He loved to sleep holding me tightly. At first I found it a tiny bit claustrophobic. But I came to love it. Sometimes I wake up in a panic – where is he?

But I would love to go out dancing!

22 thoughts on “I Am Ready For Dancing, But Nothing Else”

  3. Of course you should go! Even if you weren’t missing Goldfinch, this other man shouldn’t assume anything more just because you go out to a party and dance.

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    1. That would be an idea! I must say, there are only a handful of my friends I have told about the site – I am worried who might pass it on to Jack.
      Love the song…it makes me want to go out dancing even more!

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  8. Um, so go out dancing. IF the fella has some other ideas, tell him where you stand, and if he doesn’t like it, well his problem not yours. It is a bit soon for you to jump back into a relationship in my opinion. You’re still grieving (which sounds odd perhaps) and that takes time. The good man will understand.

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  9. I believe that honesty is the best policy. It may hurt him for you to tell him that you only would like to be friends but he must understand as Goldfinch has not been gone that long. You take all the time you need and you will know when you are ready to meet new people. Hoping he will accept what you have to say and you get a chance to go out dancing. 🙂 I really think you should go out dancing.

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    1. I hope so!
      It is only a month since Goldfinch left. One month is nothing is it. I would like to go out for a dance. Although…I have a horrible cold at the moment….so, I am not sure if he is going to want me there if I am sneezing and coughing all night!

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