For several days after Goldfinch flew away, my sadness was manifest by weepy moments and leaky eye episodes. But this week, it has been harder. Now…my emotions are becoming wildly unpredictable! They can swing one way or another within a few seconds! The reality is sinking in.
I could not sleep last night – which is very very unlike me. I sleep like a log. I fall asleep as soon as my head hits the pillow. Last night I was sobbing and so distraught I was still awake at four o’clock in the morning, so in the end I had to get myself up and make myself some honey soya milk and eat some of the chocolate Goldfinch gave me before he left. I haven’t eaten properly since the weekend. I ate all the leftovers I had from cooking and baking for Goldfinch last week and then when I ran out of food, I was too gloomy to go food shopping. So this week I have been eating carrot sticks and drinking coffee.
I was chatting with my parents and they want me to eat properly, but said at least they know I will be eating well next week when I am with my family. Mum said it is normal and natural to lose your appetite when you are down-hearted. Dad said it sounds like I have all the symptoms of being love-sick. They told me to keep an eye on myself ,and keep talking about how I feel, so that others can be supportive, and my sadness does not become extreme.
I bought posh bread (as in three times the price of the bread in the super-market and a very strange shape and full of holes) tonight from one of the five artisan bakeries which are now on the high street round the corner from the little nest. It smells delicious. I am going to have some for breakfast tomorrow – it’s much too late to eat now.
I worked from 8am – 5pm (cooking for a client) and then this evening I went to help out on a project I am regularly involved in – so much work to do there! I was rushed off my feet. I was tired, and, as I have come to realize, that is when I’m at my weakest. I started to cry. Tears pouring down my face.
Just then I felt a little vibration against my hip…I pulled out the little Nokia phone I have, and it was a message from Goldfinch!!!! It felt like a little miracle! A message all the way from Adelaide when I needed him the most! He was on his way to an interview and he was wearing the after shave I gave him!
That scent is so gorgeous – I can smell it now…there is a faint residue on the robe I always lent to Goldfinch when he came here to the little nest. I was even thinking of buying a small bottle just so that I can breathe in the scent of him when I miss him.
Suddenly the clouds broke and warm golden sunshine, Adelaide sunshine all the way from Australia, sent by Goldfinch himself, poured into my heart!
I have realized that I have a lot of this to come…I think they call it “mood swings”!!! One moment I am sobbing, the next moment, my heart is singing and I am excitedly telling everyone about what Goldfinch is up to.
My emotions are going to be a bit wild and unruly for a while I feel. Being with family next week will be a great help. But every time I hear from Goldfinch my heart is going to sing! I think I love him!
Be prepared for a roller coaster ride but it will get better. I am almost 2 years into a grim situation and it is never good but it gets manageable
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Thank you Alice…
…I think it’s helpful to know that I am not the only one, others have been through this (and much much worse) and have endured.
I have such a wonderful bubble of happiness with him all year…the reality of how very far away he is is making me feel helpless.
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Hugs my dear. I understand the crying. For me it is I get assailed by memories that sadness overwhelms me and I get teary eyes. We will get passed this both of us and I am here if you want to talk.
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Thank you Jay-lyn ❤ ❤
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Oh girl, buy that tiny bottle of his cologne and put it under your pillow!
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I think I might – it makes me feel happy!
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Sending you warm hugs and healing thoughts.
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Thanks Sadje ❤
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You’re welcome.
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I also sent you a song, in one of Rory’s challenges.
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Thank you…
because of the hours I am working this week…I am falling way behind with my reading!
But thank you for thinking of me!
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You’re welcome.
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Sounds like you are well into grieving. Take care of yourself. Be patient. You will gradually move through the grief. The world will never feel the same again. I send you light and love. ❤☺🌺
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Thanks again Roland for such a lovely comment.
I must admit now that it is so busy at work, it’s a huge distraction from my heavy heart.
I think you are right…I don’t think the world ever will feel the same again 🙂
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Have a wonderful Christmas with your family x
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Thank you Ruby…hope you have a lovely time too next week! 🙂
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Ah the Troggs, great to see, and indeed you are love-sick, a difficult thing to experience.
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It’s such a great song…
…yes, I don’t enjoy my emotions being erratic. But I have survived much worse…so I am going let myself grieve in whatever way needed and except that there will be good times ahead…and challenges.
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Absolutely
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