I once had a lovely day with a rather wealthy male friend of mine. He for some reason had chosen to make it his mission to try to flatter me and wine and dine me.
I was a little suspicious as I had heard (through the grapevine) he was not the type looking to settle down. But all he did was ask me out for a drink. I was determined that it would be only a drink. And it was only ever a drink.
I don’t like to be unkind…but he kind of made me cringe. I heard every clichéd chat-up line, every inept innuendo. There were so many moments I wanted to bolt. But I played dumb. I completely ignored his suggestions and pretended I had not noticed he was embarrassing himself. I had a great day because I was determined to be as innocent as a little lamb.
But I think I annoyed him you know! Four years later I still receive texts and e-mails from him, suggesting we “pick up from where we left off”! I have heard (through the grapevine) that he has been linked with other women, more than a few other women during the past four years. I rather suspect he texts numerous women in his contacts list hoping for a response.
I have told him I am with someone rather wonderful. Even before I met Goldfinch, I made it clear that I didn’t think he and I were on the same page. I don’t know if he thinks I am playing “hard to get” but I am not. I just think he and I have very very different ideas about what life is all about and very different ideas when it comes to relationships.
For me…since I was able to notice I was no longer a little girl but had turned into a woman, I have been looking for someone to be my head for the rest of my life. I am pretty certain my wealthy male friend enjoys being the bachelor and has no intention of giving up his wandering ways!
Oh well…we are all different. I presume whatever is dictating his decisions in life is making him happy. I am very happy as I am, and am convinced he could add no happiness at all to me, perhaps he would in fact rob me of happiness.
I think I will keep up my annoying habit of replying to his texts or e-mails a month or so after I receive them, with a remark like “thanks, all is well, hope you are ok too.” Surely he realizes that my lack of response is indicative of lack of interest. I am just too kind to tell him to give me a rest!